What should I do if my 15 year old daughter wants to dress provocative at school i.e, short skirts and pull shirts up and tie behind back therefore defying dress code and my boyfriend in which we live with wants her to get out because she sometimes talk back to me. I am a full time student and cant work because I have three other daughters who are well behaved and no income but he says that maybe we have to move to another apartment and I raise my kids somewhere else where it is less stressful to him but still wants to date me but live separetly.
2007-01-15 13:08:27 · 11 answers · asked by starsmoonis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Drop the boyfriend. He seems like an insensitive person, and you need support. Get your daughter in counseling, she seems to have self esteem problems, that's why she is acting out, trying to get attention in unhealthy ways. Good luck to you. Don't push your children away for a man, my mom did it to my siblings and I, and it hurt us permanently. Your children need you and their needs are more important than any mans.
2007-01-15 13:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women with children and shacking up with a boyfriend don't set a very good example to the kids. I think your daughter is rebelling and needs to know what your rules are. Can you qualify for some help and dump the boyfriend? It is hard for him to try to put up with these kids too, I think he has the right idea. Move and get a place of your own. Get some family counseling, not only with your 15 year old, but all of your girls and you. Good luck. It's not easy raising children and having a full schedule like you do.
2007-01-15 13:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a bad situation. tell her that she must conform to the school dress code. there are also agencies that will help you and your daughters get somewhere to live.
my advice is that when you leave the boyfriends place---leave him as far behind as you can.--my ideas on parenting is this: no matter how hard things get--you brought that kid into the world and until she's an adult its up to you to parent her. (if she is too much to handle, there is always military school and don't you be afraid to let her know you are considering it if she doesn't shape up--i can guarantee they will change her.(which ultimately will lead to her being a well-rounded grounded person) and so you have done the best as a parent as you could.
2007-01-15 13:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- YOU are the mom. You need to take the provocative clothes away and meet with the school to be sure that she isn't doing this as a way to get back at you for having a boyfriend. I left a bag of appropriate clothes in the school office for instances just as this. She may be TRYING to get your attention- so give it to her!!!
Secondly- If your boyfriend is wanting you to choose between your daughter and him- kick him out!!! It will only get worse!! I know because I have been there. At one point my daughter was trying to get my attention and my ex- got in her face and yelled at her. Later she cut her wrists over the kitchen sink............. It is NOT worth it.
Do all the dating he wants, but do it as he is wanting- from two separate residences.
You may be a full-time student, but you are a full-time mom first. Give your daughter the attention she needs and wait until she's older to worry about yourself
2007-01-15 13:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have his intrest in mind more than hers, what she is doing is a cry for attention...something is happening to her and right now you need to bring her close to you not push her away she will find that comfort and love somewhere else and you may not like what she find. men and boyfriends are a dime a dozen and if he cant help support you in an effort to work with your daught then maybe he the problem....you gave her live not him she should be first .....keep that is mind...as far as dress code goes ,try to give her options and meet her half way, its better than a complete no.....i have boys so cant really relate to the dress code issue but i can in ref to the disrepect..and we know that goes both ways. when my boys do that to me i dont spk to them until they realize what they have said or done that was not good or offended me, it works well we respect one another and dont have too many disagreements about the rules.....good uck
2007-01-15 13:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut a giantic hole in all clothing you deem inappropriate for school. If it isn't appropriate for school, then it isn't appropriate for anywhere else. Problem with clothing sloved.
Second, you need to find a source of income. Having three children and no income? How are you eating?! It sounds as if you are relying on this guy for money, something you shouldn't do. Do not stay in a relationship soley for financial reasons.
2007-01-15 14:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 05:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs discipline. You must draw the line and not yield.
2007-01-15 13:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent, act like one and lay down the law.
2007-01-15 13:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Roger S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there mom.
2007-01-15 13:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋