I'm young and pregnant....i dont think i can go through this...what should i do?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year now and we have always used condoms, but i was three weeks late and took a test that confirmed my biggest fear...now i dont know what to do. Me and my boyfriend are the only two that know because i'm not sure if i want to have it or go through the torture of telling my parents who believe i'm still a virgin. Is an abortion wrong? WHAT DO I DO?

Answer 1

Please dont listen to half the people on here. Abortion is not wrong. It would probably be the better choice for both the baby and yourself, if you dont think your ready for a child (which I dont think you are). This about it this way, even if you did have a kid, you wouldnt necessarily be doing him/her a favor because they might not get raised properly and maybe wonder who there real parents are their whole life. Going through childbirth and pregnancy wouldnt be the best choice for yourself because it could hurt your body, especially since your so young.

Answer 2

Okay. Calm down. You'll be fine. Breathe.

If you're still in your first trimester, the baby is not a human yet. It's okay, but not advisable, to get an abortion. If you abort the pregnancy now, you'll have an increased chance of infertility. I assume you're still in your first trimester if your parents don't know.

I would strongly advise a caesarean section. It's a lot less stressful to the body. You are obviously responsible if you have always used protection. It's not your fault it didn't work. Make sure your parents know. If they find out by looking at your belly when you start to show, that will not be pleasant for anybody.

Feel free to email me if you have more to talk about. A friend of mine had a baby at age 16. She chose to keep the child and is still in school. Her parents help her, and she is very happy. I hope you have as good of luck as she did.

Answer 3

fist of all let me say Abortion is Murder..its not the baby's fault that you got pregnant. So dont take it out on an innocent party. So heres what you need to do...go to the OB...take another test there and they will help you. You cant always believe the HPTs. But if you are infact pregnant adoption is always a wonderful thing..there are millions of people that want a baby so bad but due to some problem they cant have one. So consider that...I know I did at first when i found out I was pregnant(now 25 1/2 weeks pregnant with a lil girl). But after you see the lil baby on the monitor at your ultrasound..your heart just melts and you may not want to give it up. But please think of the other person in the situation now..you and your boyfriend made your choice when you took the step to have sex..so now think of the baby. Good Luck and God Bless..

Answer 4

Wow. This is a huge issue. I really think that you should tell your parents. Unless they have shown you in the past that they would do something like throw you out or hurt you physically, it's the best route. They will help you figure out your best options. I know you're really scared now for a lot of reasons (I was in a similar situation), but time is not on your side. You should sit down (maybe with just your mom at first) and just tell your mother straight up that you and your boyfriend have been having sex. You've been trying to be responsible by using protection, and this time it didn't work. She will probably be angry and disappointed. She may even yell at you. Allow her that, but let her know that you're really scared and need her now. Ask her to take you to the doctor who will discuss your options with you.

If you don't feel that you can talk to your parents, talk to an aunt or a friend's mom. You need support from a responsible adult right now, and your boyfriend does too. No matter what, try not to get too down on yourself, but next time you may want to think about whether being intimate is the right thing for you if you are not ready to have a child. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Obviously, everyone has their own opinion. I believe abortion is wrong... what do you think? Think hard about it, it's not something you can undo. If it were a friend or acquaintance, what would you tell her to do? Because you're so frightened, your decision is going to be a very emotional one. An abortion is not something you just do and it's over. Years later, you will still have the emotional scars. I'm sure your parents would want you to come to them with this, rather than trying to deal with it on your own. Look for a local Crisis Pregnancy Center, or Teen Parenting Program at a hospital. They have tons of info, and may even be able to help you tell your parents. If you have a guidance counselor or someone at your church to talk to, they could also help. It's scary, but there are TONS of us out there who made the mistake, accepted responsibility, and got on with our lives as teen parents. I got pregnant at 15, am now married to my son's dad for over 10 years, and we're doing very well. You'd be amazed at how strong you really are.

Answer 6

I believe abortions are wrong:

2 eyes that will never see
1 heart that will never love
2 legs that will never walk
1 mouth that will never laugh

If you really don't want the baby, give it up for adoption. The greatest gift you can give someone is the gift of a family. Some people can't have babies, and desperatly want a family. You don't have to kill the baby for this, it wasn't their fault. It was yours. This is your mistake and you are going to have to come clean to your parents, and so is the guy. Make sure this is the right guy, one that won't bail out on you when times get tough saying, "I'm not ready for a kid."

This is the start of a new life for both you, and your family, weather you like it or not.
Stay in school though, and do the best you can. Raise this baby well.
I know you can do all this, while pursuing your dreams.
Good Luck

Answer 7

I personally believe that abortion is wrong. Instead of abortion why not adoption? But you have to make your own choices. I know you say that you are too young to be pregnant, yet you obviously weren't too young to have SEX. You chose to play an adult game and now you have to deal with the adult responsibilities. Besides how can you have an abortion without your parents knowing? And if you do have an abortion does that mean that you'll stop having sex? If not, then what was the point? I think you should tell your parents, if they love you like I'm sure they say they do, they should be their to support you. But just prepare yourself and I pray that all goes well for you.

Answer 8

Abortions cause a lot of heart-ache and other emotional, mental and physical problems. There are many women who have a lot of trouble getting pregnant because they've had abortions in the past. Telling your parents might be a really hard thing to do but you will regret the abortion more. You might be surprised by your parent's reaction! Sure they will be upset but once they think about it for a little while, they might be your biggest supporters.

Answer 9

This is YOUR CHILD! Your own flesh and blood. You never specified how old you are, but it is possible to be a young mother who is also a good mother. If you have an abortion, you will be killing your child. If you're 3 weeks late already, you are about 6 weeks along. Your child's heart is beating. Go to this website: http://www.pregnantpause.org/develop/minne.htm and look at the picture. That baby unfortulately grew in the tube, there is no way it could have survived. It's got a head, arms, legs, eyes, the heart is beating and they can already measure electrical brain activity!!! All at 6 weeks!! You can get a glimpse of what your child looks like, and how big they are now. I've had 2 miscarriages, and a pregnancy that also ended when my tube ruptured after my baby grew in there. YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO HAVE CHILDREN!!! You are blessed. That child is your blessing, your legacy. Even if you don't feel like you can take care of it, there are a lot of people who want children who can't have them! Adoption is always an option. There are even open adoptions where you get to pick the people who will raise your child and still be involved in his or her life. God bless you and good luck to you and to your child.

Answer 10

Oh, girl. First let me say that, although it is ultimately up to you about abortion, and it is your body that will hold the baby, it is not your body that will suffer the pain of abortion. at only 5 weeks into a pregnancy, brain waves can be confirmed. that means that yes-- it is a living, thinking being. If you cant go through with motherhood, adoption is always a possibility. 89 percent of women who had an abortion as a teen regret it so much later that they consider suicide. it can also increase your risk of miscarriage later in life, of cervical cancer, or of several other gynecological problems. I won't tell you that your parents will understand, or that you may be suprised by their caring, loving reaction, because i dont know them. i dont know you. But i do know that you will be relieved by telling them, even if they react poorly, and that you will be able to make a better, clearer decision by the relief. Please think your decision through carefully and discuss it with the baby's father. there are so many more desicions than abortion. Im begging you to make this decision carefully.

Answer 11

Personally, I don't believe in abortion unless the woman was raped or if the child and/or mother is in danger.

Not to be critical, but you should've already known before having sex that condoms are only about 85% effective. That means you have a 15% chance of still getting pregnant. If you were old enough and ready to have sex, you should be able to give birth to this baby. Who cares what your parents think? There's a LIFE inside of you and if they can't be supportive of you and that child, they don't need to be a part of your life.

The situation sounds really difficult. Either you get an abortion (which will haunt you for the rest of your life) or you go through with the pregnancy and you will have to tell your parents because, obviously, you'll eventually start showing.

There's also options after having the baby... such as adoption, but I don't know or care how old you are, once you see that baby... once you see his/her eyes looking at you, your heart will melt and you will not want to give up your child. If you decide to go through with the pregnancy, you gotta do what you gotta do... meaning, you need to get your butt to a doctor for scheduled appointments, take good care of your body, and be the best parent you possibly can be.

I'm interested to know your age? If you feel like emailing me or talking anytime, I'll definitely be here. My email is [e-mail].

(I gave birth to my son at a pretty young age, I was almost 21. I can give you advice on anything when it comes to being a young parent.)