Maybe it is because of the entire situation; but still a month and a half is nothing yet it is still hard to get over her. Why?
2007-01-15 13:00:27 · 10 answers · asked by Pablo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of them are like that. Some drag on for years, and you're so happy to be free afterward that the feeling of loss isn't that profound. Sometimes a short romance can hurt longer than it existed.
I recently was involved in a whirlwind romance (and we were both 42 years old), and it was only 6 months in durration, and there was about a month where I could barely drag myself off the couch, and then there was another month where I literally forced myself to go out on dates and came home and tried not to weep afterward.
Then there was a couple more months where I had this idea--since she dumped me and called and said she still wanted to be friends a month later--that we could become friends maybe. That wasn't intense like those first two months: like missing a good friend, but then she had somebody call me on Christmas Eve to get some information on how to hook her youngest daughter's new computer up to the WiFi router I gave her the day we broke up (and I was composed talking to the guy on the end of the phone--told him everything he needed to get it up and running, said "Merry Christmas"), and then I thought "what a pathetic passive aggressive loser!". Healed up completely not so long ago.
That was a hard 6 months for a 6 month relationship. Go figure. Well, it's done now, Thank God!
Next.
2007-01-15 15:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two main reasons:
1. When you have only been with someone for a month and a half you are smack in the middle of possibly the most intense rush of feeling you will ever experience in the life cycle of a relationship. Your whole body is producing the hormones that make you feel dizzy and passionate and irrational. When you stay with someone for a number of years, much of the passion will have faded towards the end of the relationship. So, paradoxically, it can hurt more to lose someone you've known for a shorter time.
2. Because you have known this person for such a short amount of time, perhaps you have not had a chance to see their more negative habits and personality traits, so you are putting them on a pedestal. Conversely, if you have known somebody for a long time, you will certainly have had arguments, resentments and discovered unpleasant things about your partner. So, you continue to idolise this person with whom you had such a brief relationship, because you don't have the benefit of a full picture to help you put things into perspective.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 13:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by zinnamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because even though it was such a short time u really did develop love for her. u see this as a huge loss, and it has hurt your ego, and self worth. sometimes we will never know why, or be able to figure it out. but best to leave it alone, and not dwell on it too much, when we dwell on things we tend to blame ourselves, when it may have had nothing to do with us. u were just with the wrong girl. immature, and not stable enough to really know what she wanted. we always hurt no matter how young or old we are when we loose the object of our desire, to another or just because they chose not to be with us anymore. u hurt because u are only human.
2007-01-15 13:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 05:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she was the right girl, wrong time. I thought I was the only one that had a whirlwind relation that just ended poof!! No explanation, and my heart is still hurting..but I am now w/ someone else just to get through the dayz and nights...Just realize that life is soooo short! One day they are here, next day they are gone!! We must live life to the fullest each and every day.Think daily, if you like of how much you loved her...don't forget her. You were so lucky to have her even if for a moment you know??
Who told you it was forever??
My man, the one I loved left me & I don't know why...but I tell you the times I spent w/ him were NEVER wasted! Each moment he knew how much i cared...I think the dilemma for me was his friend liked me & wanted me for himself so he spoke bad about me ..And we are all 40-55 years old!! so I am devastated..
2007-01-15 13:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard because of the quality time, not quantity that you spent together. You probably laughed, talked, shared great times and enjoyed each other's company. That's what makes it so damn hard to get over a person.
2007-01-15 13:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fell into the relationship way to soon you should have not gotten head over heels into a relationship with some one unless yall been friends for quite a while.
2007-01-15 13:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Angelia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problably, because you thought she was the one, you had a lot in common with her and you thought you two would work out for the long term. I am sorry for you it did not work...
2007-01-15 13:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny i went through the same thing...we dated two months and when he broke up with me it crushed me...i didn't get over it until i met my now husband 6 mos later.
2007-01-15 13:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was the one.
2007-01-15 13:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋