tempting life style and become a better Christian. How should I have this conversation when I don't even know what to say?
2007-01-15 12:58:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just support her all the way which ever choices she makes.
2007-01-15 13:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...you're begging only leads me to believe that you have your doubts.
Well I can tell you right now, those doubts are there for a good reason.
You can't be cured from something that isn't wrong! You don't "choose" your sexual orientation anymore than you do what hand you're more inclined to use.
You can TRY to live a "straight" life, but you know deep down that it's all a lie and eventually you won't be able to contain that lie any longer and probably at that point you'll be married and have kids...and what will happen?
You'll destroy your marriage and make your kids feel as if you've lied to them all their lives.
You'll have decieved your husband, your children and worst of all....yourself!
GET SOME REAL THERAPY FROM A BOARD CERTIFIED AND FULLY ACCREDITED THERAPIST! Not some "ex-gay" ministry...those groups are simply DANGEROUS!
The APA (American Psychological Association) has issued a blanket statement warning about such groups as they do nothing but harm and even INCREASE already staggering SUICIDE numbers in confused gays/lesbians!
Is that what you want your fate to be?
A lie?
Depression?
Suicidal tendencies?
GET REAL HELP FROM A REAL THERAPIST!!
NOW!!
2007-01-16 00:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your best friend confided in you because she wants support. She downplayed her preferences because she was afraid you would get scared and pull away from the friendship.
If she thinks she may be gay, it will be a difficult road for her to decide what she wants to do about it. She will try denial, acceptance, support groups and many other avenues. Whatever she decides, she will learn her options with each road she researches.
As her friend, your support and understanding is unmeasurable. Just tell her that you are there for her no matter what her preference is.
If you find that you are uncomfortable with her if she becomes more open about it, be sure to tell her and be honest. Your friendship can make it through it if you stay true to your friendship.
2007-01-19 20:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by SouthFloridaMidwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a "better" Christian? Better than what? I hate to break the news to you, but a bigger part of the gay community are "Christians." Bible thumpers are having a field day with that, but guess what?? Even gay people believe in God! Imagine that? If your friend is truly happy with living the lifestyle of a gay individual, then why shouldn't she continue with it? Life is about being successfull in the things we do, and being happy with who and *what* we are. Don't know what to say?? How about listening to her, and keep an open mind. Don't shut yourself off to a great individual, like the majority of Society has done already.
2007-01-15 21:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go to a web site for living waters ministries and see if there is one in her area, or fairly close. Google saying living waters sexual healing. You should find it pretty quick. This group will help her with the feelings that she will be dealing with while trying to come out of the life style. It is a wonderful group to be with. They cover other things as well but they started out as an organazation helping homosexual people come out of the life style and it is christian based.
2007-01-15 21:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is gay she is gay. She has to live for her. She can still believe in God and be gay. I eat meat on Friday's does that make me a bad Christian? If we followed all the rules to be better Christians this world would be so boring. Tell her to live and be happy and follow SOME of the rules.
2007-01-15 21:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen. Im a christian and i know biblically its supposed to be a sin to be gay but i whole heartedly beleive that 99% of homosexuals are just somehow genetically premade to be that way. I mean im straight but i could never force myself to be gay, so how could a gay person force themselves to be straight? I guess the "sin" part of it is acting on it. Feel compassion for her and just be there for her, i could only imagine how hard this situation would be on someone trying to lead a good christian life.
2007-01-15 21:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Christines256 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cant be gay because only guys can become gay girls become lesbians, anyway about your question, talk to her in some sence, tell her "You cant live a normal life when you are a lesbian. You cant have babys and you cant live the happy life of beng a normal wife, so forget about being lesbian ok?"
2007-01-15 21:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because the religious wackos say that gay and lesbian lifestyles are sin doesn't mean it's true. she should live her life the way she wants, this is a free country and all should be the happiest they can without hurting others. life is too short to succumb to the wishes of the religious fanatics.
2007-01-15 21:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that's really hard because all you can do is try to reassure her it's not her fault and that she can't really get away if she is the way she is. She should embrace it...but it's hard to say, but the fact that you're there for her shows that you're a really good friend.
2007-01-15 21:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by lulula123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her, be supportive, and show her that you care.
It seems she is reaching out, so be a good listener and let her
bend your ear as much as she she needs to! The art to good conversation is being a good listener.
2007-01-15 21:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋