Okay... Me *&* This girl... Lets call her Jay... Okay Me *&* Jay have been friendz for awhile... then we just started drifting apart.. *&* I mean I dont know what to do... I really dont have time I mean during the week Im alwayz home doing homework, getting into fightz wit my sister *&* my mom... Trying to figuer things out wit my boifriend... Then on weekends Im wit " The Bubblegum Gang" ((Me Monti *&* Emmi)) *&* The " White Teez Nikez Gang" (( Jordan* my bf * Erric * his bestfriend* *&* Kevin * Montiz bf*... Buh anywayz... Is there anything I can do? I mean to make time for her???
2007-01-15 12:39:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hello chelsie...why do i get the feeling this is about me lol
2007-01-15 12:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes it is hard to make time for best friends. There are going to be times when you spend a lot of time together, so much time that you get sick of each other, and then there are going to be times like this when you are doing other things. Just let your best friend know you are still best friends and you may be busy but she is still the best. You do not have to be together 24/7 to have a best friend relationship, what makes you best friends is the quality of the time you spend together and of course all the segrets you share and the things you do for one another. I have been with my best friend sense high school, and we are now 37 and 35 years old. We have been together 21 years. Actually I was just thinking about this and this year is a 20 year aniversery for us. Sometimes we spend lots of time together and sometimes like right now almost none, but we do talk on the phone almost everyday. You don't even have to do that you just need to be there for each other when it counts.
Don't fret the fact that you need a little space for other friends other wise your best friend relationship becomes one of emotional dependancy. Meaning you must have each other or nothing and that is not healthy at all.
It is good when a person has a best friend though, it is not a bad thing if you don't, but it is nice when you do, I bet she is really precious to you and you her.
Well hang in there. And have lots of fun.
2007-01-15 12:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are hanging out with these different gangs invite her to go too I am pretty sure she would like to go long as she is around you and if she don't like it then at least you know you tried. If these gangs are bad people maybe you should not hang around them at all, if she means a lot to you in the first place and you really wanna spend time with her you would put those gangs aside on some of those weekends and plan a weekend with her and not with those gangs all the time. She want some girlfriend time with you without them sometimes as well.
2007-01-15 12:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can call her more and stop getting in soo many fights with ur mom and sister. like some other people said u can invite her with u and ur friends on the weekends. and if yall go to the same school then why not talk at school or hangout at school and maybe yall could do homework together.
well just telling u some stuff i would do.
hope things work out =]]
2007-01-15 12:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys often play a big role in causing segregation in girlfriend relationships. If she was your friend before everything got "busy" in your life and she is still making time to spend with you, you need to remember why she is your friend in the first place. You probably won't find the same atributes in the people you are chosing to hang out with and this should encourage you to re-think what values you have and prioritize real friendships over the "just hanging out" relationships you chose over her. True friendships are few and far between, hang on to what you have.
2007-01-15 12:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um-call her alot. Quit fighting w/ ur sisters and mother and make time for friends. Friends should come first. Compramize with ur mom and sisters. Do ur homework and call her. IM her. Go 2 a movie with her on a saturday. Remember that a friend should always come before a boyfriend. cus eventually u might break it off w/ ur bf, and ur best friend will always b there.
2007-01-15 12:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by ~madeline~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her with you on the weekends. I don't know what "the bubblegum gang" is but it sounds like a group of people and your best friend should be part of that group.
2007-01-15 12:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by karenlm215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gir thers time for everthing in the world one day on a sunday say hey jay im not doing nothing u want 2 hang out
2007-01-15 12:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by moniquita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is really ur friend u can make time well try to act better at home not hang out with ur "bubblegum" gang or ask her to join i guess
2007-01-15 12:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r really good friends then u should talk at school or do home work together and if you just want to hang out to hang have her tag along with u and your other friends just don't hang out with her if u guys aren't that close and don't talk at all
2007-01-15 12:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her join one of the gangs your in! Or just call in sick... You can always do homework together too!
2007-01-15 12:44:50 · answer #11 · answered by charmedmagick28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋