My husband is currenty in a iraq as a civilian contractor he wants to come home. I want him to come home very bad. But the catch is that he seems to think no job will pay him enough here where we live which is bs. He would just have to look. We have a Military base 10 miles from our house and with all his experiance in Iraq, he should be able to find a job. Anyways, a quick fix to his problem would be working for his ex girlfriend with whom they were very serious right b4 we got together. He would makes a good salary. The problem is this.. He is easily tempted or atleast has been in the past. He says he has changed. And I have given him the benifit of the doubt thus far. But when your easily tempted shouldnt you try and stay away from your areas of weekness? sorry this is so long :)
2007-01-15 12:30:27 · 15 answers · asked by mary t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not a good idea, there has to be other places for him to work. I wouldn't trust him to work with an ex.
2007-01-15 12:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's such a good idea for him to work with her. Not only will he keep interacting with her, working for someone he knows is just showing that he's not working hard enough to look for a job himself. It shows that he's only finding the easy way out, depending on others, and sorry for saying, lazy to look for a job himself. I agree with you that it's bs that there's no job here that will pay him enough. Sorry again for saying, but that's only an excuse. A lame one. If a person is determined and have the desire to do something, nothing can stop them, no matter what. They won't be intimidated by what people say around them and telling them what they can and cannot do.
2007-01-15 12:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum and if he pauses to think about it then he probably has feeling for his ex...and that answers that.!
If he argues then she has/may have already gotten in between the two of you. Watch his actions/reactions carefully guys that are easily tempted will probably show it...or give him other job options that way he's gotta come up with legit reasons.
2007-01-15 12:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by wannaBluvd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, stay away from those types of situations. Everyone likes to think they can resist temptation, but yet you hear countless stories of people who never intended anything to happen, but it did. Therefore, if he is really serious about your marriage, he would NOT accept the job working for his ex. Hold your ground, tell him absolutely not, not because you don't trust him, but because you don't want him to be in that situation. By placing himself in that situation, the message he would be sending you is that Money is more important than the health of your marriage. He's being silly.
2007-01-15 13:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can he really find work elsewhere easily? He could look for work while doing the job with his ex girlfriend as a boss. Kind of sketchy though
2007-01-15 12:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Under the circumstances, I don't think it'd be a good idea for him to take that job. You'd be putting yourself in a position where you'd have to constantly monitor him and I'm sure you don't want that. After all, being in a relationship where you have to "babysit" your partner just isn't worth it, now is it?
2007-01-15 12:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Methinks he has already fallen for temptation and is giving you ye olde cover story.
2007-01-15 13:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him get this job for trust and respect, and make sure you meet all of his sexually needs, so that he doesn't have the energy to do anything the first place!
2007-01-15 12:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would NOT support his yearning for wanting to work with/for her. If he does do it anyway, you should definately leave him.
2007-01-15 12:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no do not let him do it. as you said it is bs. he should look for another job.
good luck
2007-01-15 12:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Roy R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋