I posted this already under a diff category.. but I know you guys here at P&S always give me t/answers I need, and that's why I love you lol. Here it goes.
Like I said, I know assuming in general isn't t/right thing to do.. BUT, someone told me that at a certain age men don't ask women to be their GF's and it's just something that happens. Is there any truth in this? and if so, is it safe to assume this man and I are in a relationship?
T/situation is this:
We've been talking for about 3 monthsnow , we go out, he takes me to dinner, t/movies and we just have a great time together, he calls me baby and I do t/same with him.. and we've been intimate a couple of times, but it's never been established in words that i'm his gf nor that he's my bf..
I know some of you might tell me to ask him.. but judging from experience men sorta freak out at times and might take this as being pushy.. so I just need some suggestions to ease my mind.. :) Thank you guys again in advance. *hugz*
2007-01-15 12:23:12 · 14 answers · asked by ☆Karma☆ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
it's never safe to assume anything sweetie.
the thing is, what if he is just as puzzled and hesitant as you are to ask. if you ask me, as long as you are having fun, enjoying yourselves and having a great time together -- labels shouldn't be an issue. needless to say, a lot of couples would commit themselves, in front of God and everybody that they love each other and would stick together until death and yet they get separated after a short period of time. so why do you need to "establish in words" what you are to each other?
i'm not sure i'm expressing how i feel about this subject so i'll just leave it at this: WHY FIX SOMETHING THAT'S NOT BROKEN?
2007-01-15 12:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two have a good thing going, and you have nothing to fear. The only problem is just a miscommunication. Here's what you do. Don't directly ask him "Do you consider me your girlfriend?" because he'll think that's a loaded question. What you need to do is set some time away with him for a talk, and let him know you want to talk about the status of your relationship. That's perfectly reasonable. Tell him you want to clarify what you two have, and discuss it with him. It's better that you do this now and avoid risking let-downs later.
2007-01-15 12:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's safe to assume because some people have different views on what a relationship is. Dating to someone might just be a casual thing while someone else may take it more serious like a relationship. I think it's best to communicate and be clear where you stand.
2007-01-15 12:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably best not to assume though it does sound to me like you have something special going there between you so it's a tough call. I don't think he would consider you pushy if you come up with a proper way of casually bringing it into your conversations together. He may well have the same concerns or uncertainties his self.
2007-01-15 12:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is establish whether he is still interested in dating other people, or if he's only dating you. This is generally how adults sort it out. You could get around sounding desperate it by asking him nonchalantly if he minds you dating other people, or if he's still dating other people. His answer might open up a good conversation that might help you understand where you stand. Good luck!
2007-01-15 12:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off LOVE your shoes. Second yes i believe men do stop asking women. I think if you just examine the relationship, like is he exclusive with you? When he introduces you to people he knows How does he refer to you? Compare what you both have compared to past relationships you've had. IE... does he treat you like a girlfriend, or just a friend he occasionally dates.
Good luck. and again LOVE the shoes!!!! *what can i say im a shoe freak*
2007-01-15 12:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Charisma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, how old r the both of you??
I would take this to mean 2 people who enjoy each others company!! If you want to be more exclusive "u gotta let em know"...if he likes things the way they are...keep your heart open for THE ONE.
Ask yourself this: could you pop up over his house right now, w/o warning?? then you are a couple....if you have to call first, your just friends w/ benefits.
2007-01-15 12:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you are in a relationship. I have one quite similar right now. We don't speak of this thing called "commitment", lol...but we know it is there. If you need to hear it, then do ask. Nothing wrong with assessing this situation. Just ask...where are we?
2007-01-15 12:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the whole "going together" thing ended after high school. Hmm.
2007-01-15 12:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbi Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck that strange element above me. i will inspect ur penis and that's all that concerns. i'm gonna circulate get my Justin cd and initiate making a song! Bella you shut your Twilight mouth! lol..idk............ dying cows are bangable.
2016-10-07 05:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋