(i) Continue to have safe sex with him/her;
(ii) Remain faithful to him/her, though stop sex relations,
(iii) Get sex elsewhere with his/her consent
(iv) Get sex elsewhere on the sly
(v) Seriously consider divorce?
(vi) Any other (please specify)
This is a serious question. No frivolous answers please.
2007-01-15 12:18:06 · 16 answers · asked by wisdom tooth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two respondents have mentioned that it is not possible to get HIV by blood transfusion. I agree they do test blood nowadays, but the tests are not alwways reliable everywhere or everytime.
The reason I put this point in the question is that I wanted to rule out HIV by other means like sex outside marriage, drug abuse, etc., because I wanted the infected person to be innocent of these misdemeanours.
2007-01-15 12:29:14 · update #1
1 and 2, the rest are not an option, there is no abandonment in their time of need
2007-01-15 12:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First get tested myself. Second how is that possible since they test the blood now. Somethings not right I believe your being lied too. But if it did happen that way I remain faithful and stop having sex with your spouse. Sex is not everything it is just a small fraction of the relationship. Find something else you and your spouse could do together that is intimate w/o putting you in harms way.
2007-01-15 20:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get checked out for yourself would be first. Secondly you should be very supportive to your spouse. The blood transfusion is at fault and not caused from another party. I would also hire a lawyer and make the people involved pay for the tainted blood not being checked properly. As for the sex part of the situation. Use lot and lots of protection....Good luck
2007-01-15 20:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sincerely sorry that you are dealing with this situation. You need to realize that this is an emotionally devastating diagnosis; she needs you more than ever, right now. Talk to her doctor; get tested every six months for yourself. Get counseling to deal with this crisis in your marriage. As for sex, use protection. EVERY TIME. If she loves you, she does not want you to suffer this disease as well. But she needs to know that you are here for her, physically as well. Talk to the doctor, to find out what the sexual boundaries are. Don't be ashamed; doctors deal with these issues everyday. She needs to know that you will be there for her. And as for stepping out on the marriage (sex on the sly, or elsewhere), if it was you, would you want her to do this? And please realize, that sex outside the marriage can expose you to HIV and other opportunistic STDs. It can also destroy the trust that you so desperately need at this time. Talk to a counselor; the entire family is involved at this time. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-15 20:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if my spouse came up positive with HIV thru sexual contact (cuz sometimes it doesnt show up for several years) I would continue to have safe sex with them. Unless there were other issues in the marriage, there would be no sane reason to not continue the marriage or sexual relations in my opinion. Also kinda depends on if kids are an issue and whether or not they are necessary in the relationship to the other spouse.
2007-01-15 20:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by balooney2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if that could happen, it would be a no-brainer.....esp. for someone who took their vows seriously!
You stay. You help them with whatever they need help with. You don't just stop loving your spouse cold turkey and walk away.
And, the sex.....big deal. There is more to life than that. I'm not saying you won't miss it, but there's something bigger going on. It's called LIFE.
There are too many self-centered people out there. It's not about YOU.
2007-01-15 20:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by monalynn28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon even though blood is screened, it has happened before and it will happen again. If as a result from transfusion I would continue the relationship and I would also stay protected. It is not as though it was done intentionally!
2007-01-15 20:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II) Remain faithful but stop sex relations
2007-01-15 21:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(ii) definately, he got this through a blood transfusion. If I was the innocent party in this I would hope my spouse would stay with me for the support and encouragement.
2007-01-15 20:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'm pretty sure that I would tell them that "It's not working out for me anymore and that it's time we seperated. I also have met someone else whom I wish to date. Sorry that things went so wrong for you but if you were not out after the bars closed bumblasting strange men in bath houses you would have had a chance. Sorry honey about your luck but I gotta run!"
2007-01-15 21:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋