ok we have a kid together and fight like cats and dogs should i still marry her or split? but wat about my son

Answer 1

You have kid you are now bonded to her for life whether you like it or not whether in marriage or not. As long as you a part of your son's life it doesn't matter but you need to make sure he knows the reason you didn't or did marry mommy. And if you divorce if you get married. Both of you need to talk to him about it.

Answer 2

Having a child together does not mean that you have to get married. Marriage takes a lot of love, and a lot of patience. I don't know if you love her, or she loves you, but I do know neither of you are being patient.

First off, think about what you fight about. Sometimes, couples fight about stupid things, things that get to you, like the fact that she doesn't like to do the dishes, or that you forget to flush the toilet. But, sometimes, couples fight about big things, such as an addiction that you can't give up, or a man that is giving her too much attention and she seems to like it. The truth is that all fights are pointless. Both people end up where they started: angry and agitated, and nothing comes out of it.

Whatever the reason may be for your fighting, if you wish to work it out because you love each other, then try talking about it when you are not angry. If you begin the conversation when you are both heated, then you will end up fighting. When you feel that you are beginning to get angry through a conversation, try to take a deep breath, and tell her you want to talk about it later, when you both feel more comfortable. Let her know with all the love inside that you hate to fight with her, and that you wish this were a serious talk about something that can be resolved, not a fight.

If you are not in love, then it would be hurtful for everyone for you to stay together, even more if you married. It is unfortunate when a child is separated from one of the parents, but the law is still there. All you need to do is to fight for your rights as a father. Please, take it from me. My boyfriend has two kids, and he married the mother just to be near them. He was unhappy all through the 5 years they spent together. He ended up leaving the house without even telling her, because she would always use the excuse that if he left her he would never see the kids again. The truth is that, unless you are a drug addict, a murdered, or a very horrible influence to your kids, and this can be proven, the mother HAS to let you see your child, no matter how much she hates you. Yes, you may have to pay for child support, but think about this: you probably spend the same or more now that you live with your son AND your girl...

I hope this helps in any way! Good Luck to you!

Answer 3

What you need to decide is what makes you fight all the time. If it can be fixed then the answer would be yes, marry her but if no then you need to rethink your relationship. When there is a child involved I always say stay together but it doesn't always work out that way. First figure out why you're fighting then you may not contemplate whether to be with her and you'll find you're happier than ever and want to ask her to marry you. Think about what made you fall in love with her in the first place and go from there.

Answer 4

Absolutely NOT! If you are fighting now could you imagine when you marry her. It will get worse. Just because you share a child doesn't give the two of you the right to marry. You both brought a child into this world and all you do is fight. I hope for your child's sake that your not fighting in front of him. Both of you need some sort of mediation before you both jump into marriage.

Answer 5

Kids are very resilient. Do not stay with someone if you don't love them or fight all the time. It is better for a child to have 2 parents that are civil to each other but seperate than to have 2 parents that hate each other or fight all the time and are together.

Answer 6

You need to figure out why you're fighting all the time. It sounds like you haven't figured out how to talk to each other. You may need counseling--together and apart--to sort out how to be married, especially if you've lived together. And if you've decided not to marry, how to be parents anyway. Take a cold, hard look at the situation and ask yourself: yes, this is the mother of my child, but is she marriage material? Am I marriage material? How responsible is she? How responsible am I? Good luck and God bless.

Answer 7

I think you should get counseling. It's a proven fact that a child that has both parents in the home have a better childhood and a better life. I hope you and your spouse are not fighting in front of the child or loud enough to where the child can hear you if in another room. Pls think of the child. Put the child's feeling first not yours or your spouses.

Answer 8

What about him?This decision your thinking about affects him just as much and more than it does you and her.Stop the cat and dog fights,Learn how to talk to each other.Not curse each other out,not to call names,not to hit on each other.I don't know your circumstances,but all these things will brake a marriage before it even begins.Especially the last thing i mentioned.If you too really love each other made an heart felt attempt to stop the rudeness and abuse.

Answer 9

if u fight, u need to find out why. could be lack of communication, or that there is some power struggle going on between u and her. everyone thinks they are right, according to them. ever consider therapy? u need to give this your all for your son's sake. she will be in your life even if u leave her, so why not try a little harder, learn how to fight fairly, without a character assination on either one of u, stick to the problem, don't attack each other if theres a problem.

Answer 10

well how old are you ? you guys should both grow up i mean jeez my brother and i dont even fite like cats and dogs and we have to live with each other every day i think you should sit down with her and talk it all out instead of fighting the lord didn't put us on this earth to see us fight so i think you guys should try to solve the problem instead of letting it get so big that you guys start yelling \
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the best of hopes to you