Okay so this year I got stuck in a classroom with none of my friends. So I made new friends the only problem is theres this girl who has been switching from here and another school since 1st grade & she decided to stay at our school & my new friends LOVE making fun of her & well shes not skinny so they make fun of that and i kno she hears them but she wants to be their friend so bad but they keep saying u dont belong and all that. So they wear like alot of AE and Hollister and all that so she bought a new AE sweater but they still are like oh i bet u got that secondhand and later on i told her nice sweater to be nice cuz shes trying so hard. So later on They wrote her a note it said we dont like u so please leave us alone she said so u dont like me? I like u. They said so just leave us alone gosh wat dont u understand. fine u couldve been nicer ill just leave this school u happy yes or no. they just laffed i could see her crying i wanna stand up for her but im afraid to Wat shuld i do
2007-01-15 12:08:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
& i know this sounds really mean but wat im afraid of is losing all my friends even the ones who arent in my class cuz almost evryone makes fun of her i feel so bad for her but i just cant figure out wat to do. And where she has no friends really im afraid once i stand up 4 her shell cling to me
2007-01-15 12:23:32 · update #1
oh and im in 7th grade ill be in high school next year so i probably havent seen half the bullying shell go thru next year i wish i could stop it
2007-01-15 12:29:15 · update #2
Oh & another reason im afraid to stand up for her is im trying to make friends witha couple of em still and ive changed alot about myself and i dont wanna lose it all
2007-01-15 12:35:10 · update #3
Be honest. Try to be this girls friend. Tell your other friends how you feel. If they can't understand your feelings, then they're not real friends, and they're not worth it. Think about how the new girl feels. She doesn't have any friends. If your old friends don't want to be friends with you anymore, you'll still have your new friend, a real friend. And who knows? Maybe some of your old friends will change their minds once they know how you feel.
2007-01-23 09:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If those girls are making fun of people ask them why? and if they come up with a stupid reason like "cuz its fun" then they are not worth it. I know you want to be popular and stuff, but there are other friends that are a lot more worth your while. If the girls start to ease up on the teasing then you can still talk to them once in a while, but you don't want to be mean along with them. And I thought the nice commpliment on her sweater was good. I would talk to her and stand up for her. Even if you get laughed at, it's alright because you would always know that atleast one person has your back.
2007-01-22 02:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please stand up for this girl. Bullying is what your friends are doing and they are too self-absorbed and immature to know that they are probably going to leave very painful memories with this girl for as long as she lives. She will always remember being teased and scorned and made fun of. She is trying and she has strikes against her already because she has switched around so much and because she's overweight.
If more kids were like you, there would be way fewer school shootings, way fewer suicides by teens, way fewer depressed teens, etc.
If I were your mother I would be amazingly proud that you are such a stand-up young woman. I wish my daughter were more like this. I have a feeling she is like the girls who do the teasing and it makes me ill to think so.
I think you should try to find at least one other friend who is as kind as you are. Explain to her the situation and ask her if she will back you up. Then confront the girls who are being so mean and just tell them that they need to get their own lives and not try to hurt people. What good does that do them?
Then be a friend to the girl who is trying so hard. Be honest with her when you talk to her. Tell her you can see how hard she is trying to fit in and that you admire that! Give her some compliments about how cool it is that she's so brave even though the mean girls are so terrible to her. Tell her that after highschool, people move on and they (the mean ones) will feel stupid and sorry for what they did because it's so immature and useless.
Go out of your way to say hi to her at school and help her learn to ignore bullies. Maybe suggest different clubs she might fit into better. You could also ask her if she wants to start a fitness club with you and you could get a bunch of kids together after school to walk or jog or play dodge ball, etc. Anything to get some exercise. Explain to the heavy girl that you are not being rude but you know she wants to lose some weight and that would help her feel better about herself so doing some exercising will help.
maybe ask her to the mall to get a new makeover or to shop for a new hoodie or something. Or ask her to study.
You can chose to be popular on the outside or to stand up for what is right and be a friend. It does not mean you lose all your current friends, it just means you extend yourself and learn how to be giving and selfless.
I wish there were more teen girls like you. Please, for her sake and your own well-being, take the big step and do the right thing.
You will feel really good about it.
2007-01-15 12:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by ssssss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend - a clinging friend is better then friends who have no sense of other peoples feeling.... tell your friends when she is not around - if they can't grow up then move on... they'll look at you like you have lost your mind... there is somewhere is the world someone who would think their weird - who died and made them the fashion Queens... be a big girl and tell them that they are mean
My best friend killed himself 1 year ago because someone did not see his need to be their friend - this is a hard thing the say... and a big thing to say to such a young lady
but this little girl need a friend
clinging or not she needs someone to care
take you friends aside and tell them they need to STOP
thay do not need to be her friend if they do not want to - but they need to stop teasing her
life is not as long as you think it is
or your friends think it is
your a good kid for caring about her
Thank you
you'll do the right thing
I trust you
2007-01-20 12:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read a story about that before. The people that make fun of her are probably not your real friends, but the girl getting picked on would be a true friend if you stood up for her. I defiantly would help the girl, and teach her that she can to be herself, and if people make fun of her then they need to get lives. Think of it as if you were the one getting made fun of. Would you rather have someone who stands up for you, or fight the battle alone?
2007-01-15 12:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyluver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, having friends that act like that are not good friends at all. You should be friends with people who show respect for others. Just because a person isn't skinny, that's no reason to be so cruel to her. NO ONE deserves to be treated badly. I'm sure that if you talked to your parents about this they would say the same thing because they know what it was like to be young. They have a lot of experience. But just take my advice into consideration. If your friends like to treat other people badly, then you shouldn't be friends with them at all.
2007-01-23 04:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up! I was that girl. I used to weigh 250 pounds in high school and you have no idea what I went through. I had very few people that would stand up for me. It would have meant the world if someone did. I am alot smaller now but I still make sure to treat people how they deserve but not on how they look. Stand up, she deserves someone like you!!!
2007-01-15 12:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get new friends. And tell the old one's that their behavior is cruel, childish, ugly and not funny. You are a special and wonderful girl to be able to see that. It will not be easy, because they will turn on you. Help the girl whose heart you go out to. Maybe you could do things together to help her lose weight and get better clothes? Ask for help from somebody you look up to, if it gets too hard.
Good luck! Bless you!
2007-01-22 14:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by DW2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i live in a small town and we all do a lot of gossiping so we have to choose our friends wisely i think that you have to choose also do you think that they are worth your time what if all of a sudden they turn on you then you have no one and if she starts to cling to you tell her be more open about your thoughts besides its only highschool you have the rest of you life to make new friends if you screw up
2007-01-23 09:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by cold skiing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be the bigger person and just stand up for the poor girl. I mean, those girls are idiots. They're not going to benefit you in the future anyway, acting like that. You still have other friends. =]
2007-01-15 12:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋