my first pregnancy, and I am expecting twins, people are driving me crazy with their well meaning questions and advice, I am losing my mind in the process. I have never treated another pregnant woman this way, and I don't understand why it is happening to me.
2007-01-15 12:08:10 · 17 answers · asked by rubix110 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wow, so far these are all great fantastic answers, very supportive.
2007-01-16 08:59:10 · update #1
I hate that, too... it is so annoying. I only don't mind my own family touching my belly, i don't know what is everybody else thinking about. But I am afraid there is nothing you can do about it unless you want to be little rude {I was once when girl from work - I really don't like her and barely talk to her, as she is as false as it gets - pulled up my shirt and started touching my belly!!! That was just too much. Other than that I am trying to get over it without giving people nasty looks...} Good luck with your baby.
2007-01-15 12:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Matahari 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are giving unwanted advice, just smile, say thanks, and change the subject. If you have anyone you don't want attempting to touch your pregnant tummy, just take a step back and tell them "Please don't do that". These types of people just really need a straightforward "no" from you, otherwise they will try again. The same with the rude questions, just be very straightforward telling them you are uncomfortable with the question, or the answer is private, etc. They all think they are being nice with questions, touching, advice, etc., and usually don't realize they are stepping on personal space. Funny thing is - strangers will usually just do as they please, but while pregnant with my daughter all my family and friends respected my tummy and asked if they could touch.
2007-01-15 12:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with the belly rubbing... I would start rubbing their bellies while they rub yours. Then if they question you say "Oh, I thought this was OK in your culture." Perhaps they will think twice about it. I told people that when I needed their advice I would ask but since I got pregnant without THEIR help I thought I could manage it. LOL.. and the questions. Tell them you will write it down and ask the doctor next time you see him/her. Then if it is a stranger.. ask for their phone number so you can call them with a medically correct answer. I hated people always telling me what to do or how or whatever and these things still work for me. lol
2007-01-15 12:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
We've had some interesting conversations on this over at babycenter.com. You wouldn't believe some of the incredibly rude things people say to women who are pregnant - and some of the really dumb, strange or over the top things they say, too. Personally I haven't really gotten that but the comebacks people posted over there are hysterical!
My guess is they think they know more than you and want to help, even if it means they're scaring the crap out of you or coming off as really rude. They just don't understand, I guess. For some reason people think a pregnant lady is license to allow them to be completely stupid, unfortunately. You wouldn't say things like that to someone who is blind or overweight, but with pregnancy it's like its open season or something!
2007-01-15 12:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. People see a pregnant woman and the advice and questions start rolling. Unfortunately there is not a lot you can do but grin and bear it (or you could tell them all where to go and blame it on your hormones, lol)
Hang in there!
2007-01-15 12:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
With my first, I had a water birth attended by midwives...I made the mistake of telling EVERYONE all about it ...and finding out just how many people did not agree with my choice of birth setting. So number one: keep your mouth shut....and your back turned if you're showing already, eyes down...dont invite conversation. Number 2: if you are cornered and someone says something to you just nod and smile and say 'thanks, you gave me something to think about' and get the hell away! If someone wants to touch your expanding belly make like you are still experiencing 'morning sickness' and gag....that will turn people away from you quickly.....good luck...we all went through it..if you think this is bad...just wait until the kids are born...it will get a LOT worse!
2007-01-15 12:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People seem to think that they know more about what is happening to you than you do. There is not much you can do without sounding rude. Let it go in one ear and out the other. I know it is easier said than done, but the last thing that you need is to be stressed out. So I would smile and say, "I know, but thanks anyway!"
Good luck with the twins.
2007-01-15 12:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Should be Working! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The way I handled it might seem a bit harsh I had a pregnant meeting with ALL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I explained to all of them how it made me feel and how uncomfartable I felt with it. Every single time one of them was out with me after that they would explain to the people and everyone started to leave me alone IT WAS WONDERFULLY PEACEFUL
2007-01-15 12:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by vjswe1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when they touch your belly, say "oh, please dont touch, this is precious cargo". when you get upset at peoples comments, just smile and walk away, or say "yeah, i'm glad i'm having twins, such a blessing to have two kids on one day!" good luck! i'm really hoping the next time i get pregnant, that i'll have twins. again, congrats and good luck!
2007-01-15 12:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them a dumb look if they ask a question. If they try to rub your belly, rub theirs first. That will push them back a notch.
2007-01-15 12:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋