2007-01-15 12:04:33 · 17 answers · asked by kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG yes. We argued all the time. Hang in there it seems as if everything is upside down. The first 5 yrs are the worst but it gets better each year. Just remember you married him because you love him. My husband and I didn't know if we were going to make it through the first year we actually went to the divorce room in downtown filled the papers out but never turned them in. I keep them to remember we have to talk and work things out before we jump to conclusions
2007-01-15 12:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's still really hard and I've been married for 5 years and 11 months. It never gets easier!
2007-01-15 12:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some adjustment time.
I always tell people that it's not the big things that cause problems, like religious beliefs, political ideologies, philosophy on children, etc. but rather the small things. Someone's in the bathroom when you want to be in there. Your favorite show comes on on the same night at the same time as hers. Giving up closet space. She squeezes the toothpaste, and you roll it.
Just irritating little things like that, which take some getting used to.
2007-01-15 12:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only in the sense that my parents were more "financially" focused; suggesting that we didn't have sufficient financial base, but we could see no relevance to that. So, no, we didn't have a lot of money, but we loved each other, and we're still going strong 36 years later.
Her parents - btw - gave us their blessing, as they were somewhat less focused on money. They weren't in any sense poor; just working class people, but they got married under somewhat similar circumstances and they did just fine, too.
2007-01-15 12:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, marriage is tough even if thing are going smoothly. It's something you have to work at every day, especially in the first few years.
To quote lyrics from my favorite artist's song "We Got Married":
"It's not just a lovin' machine - it doesn't work out if you don't work at it."
2007-01-15 12:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Abby Road 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adjustments are a part of the process. Not being able to adjust. Is why some don't make it. Love is always changing. If you truely do Love this guy. You'll go to the ends of the Earth, for him And him for you. But that takes adjustments. He's worth it.
2007-01-15 12:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard every day. But, you get out of it what you put into it. Try to watch your spending and wait until you have children until you are settled.
2007-01-15 12:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf and i aren't married yet, but we stay at each other's places a lot. it was hard for me to do that at first cuz we're both so different when it comes to messes. i'm a neat freak and he's not...so now he "cleans" his place before i go over. it's still not spotless, but i guess it's the thought that counts. if he only cleans one thing i'm just glad it's the toilet!
2007-01-15 12:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it can be a huge transition period, learning how to live together and figure out which battles are worth fighting and which one's you just need to let go.
2007-01-15 12:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to get to know each others do and donts, it's normal, though it out, it will get better.....God bless ya
2007-01-15 12:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋