Im still young, turning 20 in April, but I pretty much have now to decide my life. Since i was little i have battled with my weight and how i look, never fitting in, and always 'just one of the guys'. Well i finally found someone who doesn't care about that and loves me for me. But the thing is, I found him after i figured out what i want to do. I want to join the US Navy and become an Master at Arms (MA) and wanted to reach for SWCC since i cant do SEALs as a female. Now he knows this is my dream and that i planed everything to do this and he tells me every time its brought up that if i want to go he'll support me, but its in that tone of “i don't know what i'll do if you go”. Pretty much its Navy or him and i have no clue which to pick! Yes he's willing to move his whole life from CA to FL for me but how do i know it will last? And i don't want to ask myself what if for the rest of my life. Im just so lost, i need help!
2007-01-15 12:02:42 · 3 answers · asked by helkaahaien 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok first this is not a decision you need to make alone.
he sounds like the kind of guy you can TALK to, so talk, decide what is best for you both, tell him you have a worry that he is only saying the words and not meaning them and see what he says.
In any relationship honesty is everything, appeasement is not, while give and take helps it must not be one sided, your dreams are importnat as are his and YOU have to ensure you know what his are too.
That he is willing to uproot and move with you says a lot for the guy and your importance to him, it is a great starting point for the conversation you need to have. it also indicates that he expects the relationship to last so why shouldn't you?
Good luck, and always be truthfull with each other, hiding behind screens of any kind will always fail.
;) H
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2007-01-15 12:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should choose your dream. It sounds kind of cruel, since he does sound like a really great guy who is committed to you. But, you have to remember that he's "just" a boyfriend. That means you should still make decisions based on "me and him", not "us". Especially at 20, you should focus on your own priorities.
Remember, this is just my opinion. Hopefully you can find some sort of decent insight in what I said.
2007-01-15 12:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the one who loves you for you. if he is really willing to pick up and go for and not look back then he seems to be the one.
if it dont work out then you know that you tried and that youll have no regrets because you did try
2007-01-15 12:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by mommie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋