2007-01-15 11:56:37 · 35 answers · asked by Jay boogie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Now is the best time to tell her. The longer you wait, the more likely she will be less trusting of you in the future, as she will consider you someone who keeps important information from her. Having said that, the onus to reveal this information is on the both of you, not just you.
2007-01-15 12:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, sit down and decide what you and your girlfriend are going to do about the pregnancy. Are you planning to keep and raise the baby? Are you planning for her to deliver the baby and then give it up for adoption? Are you planning for her to have an abortion.
In some circumstances, and depending on how mature and old you and your girlfriend currently are, I would say it might be better not to say anything to her parents or your parents if the plan is to abort the fetus. If your girlfriend is under 17 or not mature enough to deal with the emotional waves that surely will come as a result of abortion, then maybe it is best for the two of you to seek counseling or to tell her parents if they will be supportive.
If they will just be angry and not supportive, then why tell them if you are not planning to become parents?
If you are going to keep the baby, then they need to know asap because as another smart and selfless poster replied, your girlfriend needs prenatal care now; not later. She needs medical attention throughout the pregnancy, starting very soon.
It would be helpful if you and your GF could sit down together first and decide a course of action as well as map out the best plan you can. Be realistic about where you could live, how you will support the baby, what kind of aid you might need and will qualify for. Think about your education, her education, daycare, medical care, housing, the expense of raising a baby and so on.
It's hard work and worth every last minute you put into it...raising kids I mean. But it takes maturity and dedication and selflessness.
The fact that you are worried about what will happen to YOU is not a promising sign as far as I am concerned. I think you need to stop thinking so much about yourself and shift that focus to the unborn child that belongs to you.
Good luck and congratulations. As much as it might seem impossible to become a father before you might have planned it, if you are dedicated enough and willing, somehow you can do this.
2007-01-15 12:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it gives her more time to adjust to the idea before the baby actually gets here. And I know you are scared, but you should be with your girl when she tells her is shows that you are there for her and you are willing to be mature about the whole thing. Show her you are making an effort and maybe with some luck she will cut you a little slack, but even if she doesn't, don't let her stop you from being in the child's life.
2007-01-15 12:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, no just let her find out when the kid graduates high school. Yes, tell her as soon as possible and don't wait. She's going to find out and better now then when your girl friend starts to show. I doubt she will kill you,(I could be wrong)she will be mad for awhile, in the end you might need her help. Next time, if it's going to be a problem keep it zipped.
2007-01-15 12:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, despite how terrifying the thought of it may be, you need to sit down with her and tell her together. she will find out eventually no matter weather you speak up or not and in all reality she would most likely hear you two tell her then find out the hard way. she will respect you for being an honest person and be more keen towards you and her daughter staying together...a mother's respect is worth more then any amount of money!
2007-01-15 12:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by ashlynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering it is something that is going to be know eventually anyway, I would say tell her mother now. Your girlfriend needs to see a doctor on a regular basis. Also, your girlfriends parents will have more respect for you standing up, then hiding in the background.
2007-01-15 14:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by á?¦à®?á?¦ Mo á?¦à®?á?¦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to give her time to accept it. The last thing you want is try and hide it this should be a joyous time. Both of you together tell her youre really excited and shes going to be a grandma. If i were i might stay close to a quick exit though. :) Good luck!
2007-01-15 12:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to start getting prenatal care, can she do this without her mother's involvement?
I would say that you need to go ahead and get it over with...she will probably be upset for a while but will eventually accept it.
Your girlfriend is going through a major medical change and lots of things could happen. Her parents need to be aware of what is going on, really they do.
2007-01-15 12:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to find out anyhow so you should tell her now and get it over with. Also, if there's any chance that she's going to terminate the pregnancy, that would need to be done right away.
2007-01-15 12:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be. You and your girlfriend should walk up and tell her the truth, cuz if and when you get married to her and then show her the baby she'll kill you ten times over.
2007-01-15 12:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by blmr0123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋