Is it bad if I lied?

Question

to my best friend that I have a boyfriend taht is 16 and lives in California, if i really dont. i mean i was just having fun but now i think taht i took it too far, but i cant go back now...help

Answer 1

most of us have done it..just say u broke up.

Answer 2

Dont worry about it too much. Its not like you've hurt someone. We all make mistakes and have told lies at some stage or other. It is all very well for others to say come clean and tell your friend the truth, but if you do, she may look at you in a different light and may never be able to trust you again. Just put it down to experience and learn from it. Say you have broken up with him, and leave it at that. Take into consideration that, if you lie, you need to have a very good memory; and it usually spirals and you could end up looking really stupid. Onwards and upwards now mate, no more lies and you will do fine! If, in a few years time you are still friends, then maybe you could confess to her and get it off of your chest then, and be able to laugh about it. Just leave it for now and enjoy your friendship.
I wish you all the best! :o) x

Answer 3

I kinda understand why you did it. I mean, I lied to my friend too once, that I have a bf living overseas, that he's a famous dj etc. I even made up our break up saying his mum doesn't approve of our r'ship and that he had to move on with his life (complete with tears and hours of sobbing, mind you). I guess, I really wanted some attention from her back then, cos she's cooler than me, and has more boyfriends than me. I look pathetic compared to her and I really wanted to take one level up to look better next to her. Now, when I think back, I feel silly. Why did I do all that anyway? Who is she that I wanted to impress so badly? Was I lying just to spice up my life so I won't appear so boring? But after that one lie, I realised that I constantly have to remember the lie, so that I can re-tell the story all over again and I never once feel not guilty for lying. It's hard to live by. You have 2 choices, to come clean, or to continue to lie a 'breakup' like I did, and the story will end there. Just remind yourself of this incident, that you won't do it again. Go out and find yourself a real boyfriend, instead of an imaginary one. How hard can it be?

Answer 4

Tell your friend what happened and you were just having fun but you realize it has gone too far and apologize. Do not compound the lie by saying you broke up. Do this before she finds out some other way.

Answer 5

I think what you,and he did was wrong,however yes it is bad to tella lie,because the bible says in the 10 commandments do not lie.The devil is a lie,and dont try to be of his standards,and YES!I know we all have,and do sometimes,but for the most part try not to.The truth will all reveal at the end of this bs anyway so tell the truth,and tell her look I am sorry,I am only human,and we make mistakes,and I understand her heartbreak,but if she stops talking to you,then that shows that she has an unforgiving heart,and maybe you should give her sometime,and if she goes back to the guy,hes sorry anyway for even messing with you,but if she does shes a lame bestfriend for ruining her friendship over a guy!But if you lie,and the truth is manifested,then that will cause her to stop trusting you at all,because that would make two forms of deceit.And I tell you,PLEASE follow my advice,and tell your friend how you truly feel!Hope I helped!

Answer 6

Not exactly the worst lie in the world was it? Just forget all about it and next time she mentions it (if ever) just say that you haven't heard from him for ages so its time to move on as he is too far away. This can be handled quite easily....

Answer 7

i did something like that once now most poeple would say to tell the truth but come on u cant do that and i dont think u are a lier it was probably a onetime thing so i would refrain from talking bout it and when it does come upo just dismiss quickly and change the topic then i would just wait a while till she forgets

Answer 8

just end the lie and say you split up with him no need to loose your friend over a stupid thing like that just learn by your mistake and move on

if you carry it on too long it will get out of line so you do have to end it
and everyone lies sometimes to boost there esteem

Answer 9

well a wee fib just go,s with the territory of growing up don,t worry i,m sure your pals have told you a few lies you could just say it did,nt work out maybe too much distance or whatever relax nothing is ever as bad as you think

Answer 10

No it is not bad that you lied. You had a reson and protected your reasons and now you have a guilt complex like something better would have resulted not that you lied.
There are more important issues in life than worry about that. So I would relax on it and move on,.

Answer 11

I can remember lying to my friends about having a boyfriend in the navy. I wore my uncle's navy ring and everything. But I found out that once you start lying, it snowballs into another lie and another and so on.

I suggest you come clean before you are caught lying to your friends. I wasn't that smart and it cost me a friend or two. Don't wait around to confess.