2007-01-15 11:38:23 · 50 answers · asked by shylabrat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's okay. In a crush, usually that is a safe outlet for our feelings; that doesn't mean that you are cheating, as long as you don't act on it. I have the biggest crush on Denzel Washington, and my husband looooooves Tina Turner! We laugh about it, and that's okay. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-15 11:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Judy W 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, but it happens. And it'll continue to happen. And if you don't realize that's all it is you'll do something stupid and destroy your marriage, your life and your well being. Ideally, if the relationship is tight, and you can get back to being head over heels or have a crush on your spouse it won't happen. That is and isn't true. I like it every now and then, but don't want the immaturity that the relationship consisted of when I first met her.
To be honest with you, I did do a lot of stupid things in the beginning. Quite honestly she should have left me to lie in my own guilt and shame. And it's a bit confusing, particularly if you've never felt that way before and feel conflicted because you were only supposed to feel that way about your spouse. So move on and put it behind you. Marriage is a compromise involving an ideal, an aspiration, to maintain some level of continuity for the rest of your life. It's something to be taken daily, not some marathon you'll run for the rest of eternity. A series of small races, sprints even ...
2007-01-15 11:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me ask you this. How would you feel if your spouse went to work each day and you knew there was another person that had a crush on your spouse and your spouse had a crush on the same person? Would you be worried? Would you be offend since you were not the person that your spouse is having the crush on? My answer to the question is no it is not ok. A crush can lead to other things. Yes it's ok to look and say oh he/she nice looking but that is far as it should go.
2007-01-15 11:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is ok 2 have a crush when u are married, but do not let it go any farther than that. If it does then u might hurt people that u really care about. But u no wat everybody has a crush so u should not feel bad
2007-01-15 11:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy Chelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married and have a but of a thing for someone..would never go after him feel rotten enough for just liking him even tho I obviously didn't plan on this to happen...so I told a friend who is married for some 20 plus years and he told me not to worry that it happens to everyone because we are still human just to be honest with my partner and make Sur nothing more happens...
2016-02-04 06:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is fine. If you don't have a crush or fancy other people throughout the length of your marriage than somethign is wrong. It is only natural to admire qualities in other people. Ask yourself why you find this other person attractive and you will probably realize it is because they share some key qualities with your mate.
2007-01-15 11:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by stampadhesive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crushes come and go. It's just something that happens. Just because you are married doesn't mean you are just going to stop coming across people that are appealing to you. If you love your spouse and you know these feelings won't interfere with the marriage, you will see that it will pass and your life together will be successful regardless.
2007-01-15 11:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by ColleenM7387 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well how deep is this crush? if you feel its getting stronger, maybe you should talk with your husband. find out what's wrong with your relationship with him (if there is any). maybe see a marraige counselor. i mean, its really not fair to him if you dont tell him. but, it could be just a crush. and crushes come and go. just phases. try waiting a while. and see what happens. you never know. the new guy could be your soul mate. hope this helps.=}
2007-01-15 11:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure as long as it's just a crush...If the line is crossed then duh of course it's so wrong! Crushes are suppose to be not seriously seeking a relationship thing, just like from a distance...You can look but not touch or taste the fruit of pleasure from another other than your married person
2007-01-15 11:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm married and I have a crush on someone, however, I'll NEVER act on it, so I guess that makes it okay.
2007-01-15 11:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋