i work part time he works full time. he takes out the trash and does laundry, but i do everything else, including taking care of 3 kids. there is a lot to do, should i demand he does more or let him slide? he makes way more than me and gives me stuff.... help!!!!
2007-01-15 11:35:50 · 18 answers · asked by Koko Kandy Kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO THATS UR JOB SO LONG AS HE GIVES U $$$$ GIRL!
2007-01-17 13:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Import Car Salesman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He works full time and brings home the bacon. He should take out the trash, and on weekends, do home maintenance and cut the grass. You need to get off the couch, turn off the TV, and do your share. You are getting a gift since he is also doing the laundry. Don't give me this taking care of the kids is a full time job mularky as you can do the housework while managing your children.
2007-01-15 19:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You work part time and he works full time and he does the laundry and takes out the trash plus gives you things and you can`t clean the house, cook meals and watch the kids. Sounds to me like you have a saint for a husband. Do you know how many women would die for a husband like yours. You had better put a ball & chain on him before other get word there is a man like him out there.
2007-01-15 19:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little selfish. He works full time, you work part time, meaning you have more time on your hands. He also takes out the garbage and does the laundry. Having 3 kids means there is a LOT of laundry.
If you want him to contribute more to the workload, perhaps you should be contributing more financially.
2007-01-15 21:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by littlyau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you both should put equall effort forth in maintaining the house, meaning you should also start putting up half the utilities and mortgage too
it seems like he already does help around the house a bit and works full time too, where as you work part time only, out of that i can assume he pays for the majority of the bills and also gives you stuff too and you want more?
does he not do enough already?
2007-01-15 20:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does making more than you and giving you stuff have to do with him helping around HIS house. (I mean it's his and yours). Well, if he makes more can he afford a maid or nanny? He obviously feels that since you work "part time" then you should be able to handle the house. By-the-way, just cause their is a lot to do around the house, can you do it? Do you want him to help "just because"? Not sure of the whole dynamics of your complaint.
2007-01-15 19:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Victor H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should do an equal share. You have a full time job as well. Taking care of your children and home when he is not there. Dont be pushy or demanding it will accomplish nothing. Sit down and talk to him. Him giving you stuff has nothing to do with it I am sure you give him "stuff" also.
2007-01-15 19:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No,don't let him slide.Let him know you need more help,and with what you need help with.But try asking for a while,don't demand just yet.I know that it is frustrating to have to do most of this yourself.Try leaving him notes for thing you would (like him to do)that would help you out.Asking notes,Not demanding notes.See if he does any of it.If he does even one or two things,that's a start.Continue to leave the notes with an I love you,Thank you,I appreciate you helping me (Honey).If you've ever heard the saying,you can catch more bees with honey than with vinegar.It does works on people too.(sweet words).Keep your attitude positive.With 3 children they need not see or hear you too arguing about house work or anything else.Try this for a couple of weeks.If no results,try to sit him down in a comfortable atmosphere and talking to him about it.Remember,talk,don't argue.especially in front of the children.
2007-01-15 20:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he does alot especially since he is working full time as well.... It may be best for you to stay home and not work and maybe you can work from your home. Talk with him and see how he feels and if he is open to helping you more around the house.
2007-01-15 20:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he does laundry?! You are lucky! My husband only takes out the trash!
2007-01-15 19:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt your husband to help out at home. Don't jump or argue with him about it. Just sit him down and express to him how you feel about sharing chores around the house.
Taking this from experience, my husban works full time and comes home and helps out with the chores at home.
So men can do it just as much as us women can.
2007-01-15 20:18:41 · answer #11 · answered by lana1meyer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋