Lost my M2M virginity and now confused!?

Question

SO, here's my situation, which is a weird one for sure.

I wasn't initially gay. Mind you I was curious when in H.S and all, but I wanted that T&A more. As life progressed I developed this serious incurable bladder disease that creates many sexual problems (E.D., painful ejaculations...) The disease wrecked my 20's and led to me straying more and more from being around women.

About 8yrs ago, I started having more of a liking toward men because that's all I was surrounded by. I was with one guy 3yrs ago and loved giving him oral. This past Friday, I met up with some hot young dude and went all the way. I was really into it, but still have E.D. problems and he was wigged out by it, just like women were in the past.

I'm not even attracted to women anymore and more so intimidated. I'm left entering a gay world with two left feet and the same old problems getting in the way.

I'm tired of being alone. Any suffestions? By the way Viagra makes matters more painful.

Answer 1

I don't think your situation is so weird. In not having a fully functional penis, I'm in sort of a similar situation.

Sexuality is fluid. If you put heterosexual people in a same-sex environment, most of them adapt and learn to enjoy what's available. Re your "two left feet" comment, yes it's difficult entering a new world, especially with your ED problems. My suggestion is to use online personal ads where you mention your ED problems and then also describe all the good qualities you have to offer. I expect it will be easier to find women doing this, but I have confidence that you will be able to find either a man or a woman who wants to be with you. There is more to relationship than hard c*ck.

Answer 2

Something you could try to work round your painful ejaculation problem would be to see if you could experience "prostate orgasms". Personally I don't believe that these are prostate orgasms at all and I think they are due to orgasmic release of the PC muscles.
One approach might to invest in an aneros stimulator, another way would be to get into anal sex, and particularly into fisting. In fisting it's quite important not to stimulate the penis. The orgasm builds up while your partner is rootling away in your back passage.
This sort of orgasm is about 10 million million times better than what males normally experience as orgasm.
An ability to experience orgasm in this way is something you learn and you may have to be fisted on quite a few occasions before you actually get there. However, once learned you will not forget how to get there. I am sorry to hear of your bladder problems and I can understand how painful this might be. I suffered from prostatitis for about 7 years before a specialist doctor finally cured me.

Augusta

Answer 3

Okay is your problem ED or pee-peeing when you get porked...There some great natural things you can take for the ED...I just started taking anti-depressants about 3 months ago and suddenly I have that problem...UNACCEPTABLE! Do a search using the phrase natural viagra and it will show you two supplements that are suppose to work.....I just started the supplements 4 days ago and will put willy to the test tommorrow...Let ya know how it goes...By the way, willy shows up for the excitement, he just suddenly falls asleep in the middle....Either the supplements work or the anti-d go byby...I am wayyyyyy to horny for these things :) BIG LOVE< Kevin

Answer 4

you may be transexual and/or transgender of sorts.. i too have had problems getting erections when trying to insert my penis into a vagina (never tried inserting it into a bum, but i would probably have the same problem..)

i masturbate 3 times and day for 2 hours total, and never have problems.. so my issue is lack of comfort in the male sex role..

if you like giving oral and like receiving it in the bum, then you are showing signs of female sex role..

it can be sad when you aren't able to get it up, but could be you just aren't interested or comfortable or ready to get it up for those situations..

do you ever see or feel yourself as a woman? can you imagine yourself having lesbian sex with a woman or seeing sex with men as being straight?

and i guess, most importantly, do you still have erection problems when you masturbate?? if so, this is a medical condition.. if not it is either bioligical or psychological, depending on where you fit in the transgender/transsexual equation.

or could be your psychological hang ups are a relfection of other things.. hard to say..

Answer 5

See a Urologist until you get an answer about your problem. If it is painful to get erecti*ns, perhaps surgery can be done to allievate the symptoms.

THIS IS NOT SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH, there are therapies, medications and/or surgeries.

Answer 6

Sexality is a fluid thing, and like other aspects of life, can change over time. I wouldn't worry about it too much, although if you haven't sought alternative medical treatment for your other issues, you might look into it.

Answer 7

go out there and meet somone again. Before you get into bed, tell him about the disfunction so he wont be freaked

Answer 8

You weren't initially gay huh?
I really would like to know more about that.

Answer 9

You are gay, and there is NOTHING wrong with that dude.
Just give yourself a break.