I got some great advice from someone on here about trusting my husband, but the problem is that our problems have already started to ruin our marriage. Does anyone have any ideas on how to start fresh?
2007-01-15 11:30:55 · 6 answers · asked by GIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust is Risk.
Risk Trust.
Imagine for a moment what the world would look like in the mind of one partner should the other partner by sheer accident be tragically killed .
I have seen this scene many times
What would be your biggest grief ?
Sometimes the deepest communications are in silence, and yet, there are infinite combinations of words able to nourish that silence when it has become a chamber of gloom and despair to the relationship.
Trust or tragedy ?????
2007-01-18 22:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should try to slow down, sleeping together was a mistake because that make you remember your ex more. I'm not saying that should not go out, you should but take it slow. I don't think you are ready for a relationship, neither her. If you think you need professional help get it. If you live in U.S. or California they have some group called CODO, (co-dependent) where people like you including myself get together. I herd they have a good time and they talk since they all have the same problem. You can date other girls, you are not going to there stand by, but yes take it slow. I don't know why but some people are more difficult to forget that other. However, it's a good idea that you don't get in contact with your ex. May God bless you and show the way.
2016-05-24 18:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is...has he done something to hurt the marriage? Has he lied? Cheated? Blows his check on video games? You sound like you need to go into counseling, both as a couple and for yourself. Sometimes, demons from our pasts (abuse, rape, divorce, etc.) can make us very reluctant to trust or trust ourselves to love. Don't go down that road; it will destroy you in the long run. If he has done something, get counseling, so you can determine if you can get past it, or take the steps to separation and divorce. If you have come from a past of broken trusts and hurts, take a long look at yourself and get help to get past it. You are worth love, and you deserve to be in a relationship that is not toxic...to either of you. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-15 11:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a week's vacation in France or Italy. You have a new expereince together that you cna talk about together. Whenever you think about why you don't trust him write int in a book. Once every week, read what you have written to him. Eventually, you will have shared all of your feelings and you won't feel thoae issues anymore.
2007-01-15 11:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling and work on the problems that are destroying your marriage. And if that doesn't work then maybe you shoyuld divorce.
2007-01-15 12:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by lana1meyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about how willing you are to forgive and let go (not forget...you won't forget, but time will heal).
2007-01-15 13:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋