She always suspects me.I never checks her h/phone cause i trust her but she checks my h/p and disturb my friends by calling them especialy female friends.U see i have both male and female friends a lot.I always help them whenever they need my help. But my wife dont likes it at all.I talked to her and advised her so many times already but her attitude still going on.I wanted leave her already cannot stand of her already.Because of her i cannot go out anywhere.Some times i feel lonely.This things started to encourage me to find a new speacial.I dont like this kind of life. So stressful.WHAT IS YOUR OPINION?
2007-01-15 11:30:29 · 8 answers · asked by amadeus_denis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through the same thing with my EX-wife. She would do what you are talking about, and it drove me crazy to the point I finally left.
And, yes, some people act this way for no reason. I have never been unfaithful, before her, or when I was with her. Inever gave her a reason to think I was.
It is very unhealthy, and will take its toll on you. If you have talked with her, and she will not change, then leave her.
And, in response to another answer, some people do wake up one day and start acting that way. We dated for two years before we were married, and after six months of marriage, it just started. No reason, it just started. I stayed married to her for another 3 years before I finally got out.
Again, if you have talked to her, and she won't alter her behavior, she never will. Leave her, and get on with your life. It is tough, but I am 1000X happier these days.
Interesting note, she was in another relationship within a few months of our divorce. I still have not started dating again. From what I understand by people we both know, she is doing the same thing to the new guy. Better him than me!!
2007-01-15 12:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, stop DRINKING! We can't understand anything you've typed.
Second, why did you get married? Was it just for fun? Was she a "Special"?
You marry for life. That's the problem with society today. If you don't like that something isn't going in your favor, you ditch it.
Get over yourself. Control your "friendships" and GROW UP. Marriage is a huge compromise.
Show her that she has no reason to suspect a thing. Step up to the plate and be a man, a REAL man.
Try role playing here. Reverse. Now she has the friends....man friends. What do you feel?
You don't "need" to go out anywhere. That stops when you grow up and marry. You do things "together"! Aha!
I certainly hope that you don't have any innocent children in this mess.
2007-01-15 20:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by monalynn28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married and have a lot of female friends?..that's the problem! Encouraged you to find a new special? What's that mean? Are you cheating on her? No wonder she's always checking on what you're doing. If you can't stand her than get a divorced. But, if you want to make it work, stop having so many female friends and making her unsure of your motives.
2007-01-15 19:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by one_daytripper 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why get married if you don't want to spend your life and your time together? I am not saying you have to do everything together but when it comes to going out....especially at a club or something like that then yes, your wife should be there. That is marriage.
Sorry but it sounds like you have something to hide and you are just looking for a reason to say goodbye and it not be your fault.
2007-01-15 19:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she sounds very insecure and doesn't trust you. most married couples have both male/female friends , nothing wrong with that but...for you, you have to convince her that you are NOT going out to fool around on her.
i can understand what you are feeling. having an insecure partner could turn out to be stressful.
2007-01-15 19:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by ~muffun~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is unreasonable. Stick to your guns and don't back down. If you do, you will never forgive yourself. Just don't do anything to give her a reason not to trust you.
2007-01-15 19:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound smothered, if she can't trust you, and lay off. she will surely drive you away. she sounds insecure. she needs counciling.
2007-01-15 19:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
does she have a reason? no one eakes up one day and acts like this for no reason.
2007-01-15 19:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋