2007-01-15 11:27:46 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok we have a 9mth old beautiful boy which i want to see every day but if we brake up he will live 15hours drive from me? wat to do.
2007-01-15 12:21:33 · update #1
If you have aspirations of being miserable all your life then go ahead.
2007-01-15 11:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Candy C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to consider what is the best environment for your son. Being raised in a home where there is fighting all the time is not healthy. I've seen this between my daughter and her ex-boyfriend. They have a son who is 18 months old. They WERE living together but it wasn't working out. In watching them, I felt she was the one starting the fights, mostly over dumb things, and I felt sorry for him. If your gf doesn't appreciate you now, she probably never will.
I say go thru the courts and file for some sort of custody so you can keep your son close. You want to be involved and help raise your child. That's the important thing, you and your son being happy. Maybe your gf will grow up and see this... someday.
2007-01-23 07:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm mm Let Me Think On That One?
Nooooo
Sometimes distant it's such a bad thing and that maybe be so in your case.
Or maybe just having a baby this lady is still going through the Baby Blues?
And you seem to only be thinking of yourself when you said nothing of the sort< "How can I make it better or make her feel better?"
BUT more along the lines of ," IF we break up the drive will be 15 hours away."
Why that far?
So you don't have to help raise the little one.
If she is unhappy now she won't be a barrel of laughs when you move 15 hours away! You think about that one when your driving 15 hours to see your little one?
2007-01-23 08:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be depressed. Signs of depression can include irritability and apathy. Picking fights can be a sign that she is depressed (and doesn't realize it). Go to the link below and see if anything else sounds familiar. Has she had a lot of life events/changes in the last year?
If you don't think this applies to her then I'd say move on. But if she is depressed gently suggest that she might want to look into the symptoms/getting treatment. Don't suggest it while you're arguing though.
2007-01-15 11:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's elf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to think of not being with your child and if you both have the means to live near each other it will make it easier for you both but its not a Good idea to marry someone that wants to fight with you every day and doesn't appreciate you. when you decide what you want to do and go to court for your rights as a parent see if you cant make an agreement to live as close as possible to each other so seeing the baby wont take 15 hours to there.
2007-01-23 06:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to stay with the child, you have no alternative. If you choose to leave the relationship, you will pay child support, see your child on occasion, and perhaps get your self back in good emotional status. You will even get a chance at finding someone to care for you and if you are lucky, someone who is loving enough to bring into your child's life as well.
Get our of the relationship and find that person set on earth for you that makes you feel like you are lways at home. She is out there.
2007-01-22 19:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by desdicata 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get counceling together and try first then you can see where it goes from there but its not good to have an unhealthy relationship with eachother and you want to see your baby... so best thing to do is get help. thats the only way you can win. if it doesnt work dont let that baby be in the middle of this crap thats unhealthy too and will effect your baby forever. dont marry until your happy.... also it sounds like she is bored and unhappy try going out and doing more. she must be lonely to only take it out on you all the time. its not you fault but you can help out more she needs you and it seems likeyou love eachother . try not to ignore the desperate calls for help. she is asking without asking. let he know ho you feel too. It seems we hurt the ones we love the most so think of it as she loves you alot but she hurts you because she loves you. its sad but true. so help your family or help yourself and your baby!
2007-01-21 13:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If that is the pattern you have set now, that will be the course you will be on for the rest of your life. Is it fair to the child? You can always get visitation. Also, maybe she partly acts this way because she knows you will put up with it. Some tough love might help her get a clue.
2007-01-22 05:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are States, where if you know she will be taking your child that far away, and you are paying child support, you can have a judgement filed to prevent that. My Sister went through the same thing, and her X husband filed an Order against her to prevent her from moving out of State..
2007-01-22 14:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
If you don't feel comfortable with marriage at the time. Get a lawyer agree to pay child support and get visitation rights. That will restrict her a bit from moving too far. You will still be able to see your son.
Hope this Helps.
LUCK!!
2007-01-20 07:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nunya M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well- you should attempt to communicate with your partner and see if you all came come to some middle ground!! If you all cant make this work you may have to come to a coustody resolution! I am hopefull with some honest conversation and maybe some counseling you all c an w ork this out!!
2007-01-23 05:30:05 · answer #11 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋