However, the spouse I believe is in the middle of a mid life thing!!!
He tells me or some of our friends that he could never stop loving me, but he doesn't believe that he can move back in.(out now for 6 months)He tells me that he is dead inside and doesn't know what to do about it. I have suggested counselling, either together or privatly. What do I do? Should I step back and forget about him? Do I fight more for him? He just told me recently that their maybe someone else now, he just does not know what he wants. Is he feeding me a line or should I wait and see what happens, Because I have seem to come to accept the fact that this maybe OVER. Am I right or wrong to just step away and move ahead? Like the old saying goes..."let it go..if it comes back it was meant to be...if it doesn't...."
2007-01-15 11:19:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he has taken you out of his heart. When he also suggests that there 'might be someone else', these are words that tell you, no he isn't coming back. Make plans to move on while you are 'giving him some time', but honestly, 6 months is enough to know what he wants and what direction he is taking. It sounds like you already 'let go and it isn't coming back'. Would you really want him back if he were rejected by someone else and you were just there by 'default'? Counseling should have taken place before he ever moved out. I don't usually recommend moving on, but I think in this case, the dice has already been cast.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-15 11:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't go to counseling with you or privately, and you still love him, you have no choice but to give him time. But don't wait forever! If he does agree to counseling then run, don't walk, to the counselor's office. A 20 year marriage and still in love is nothing to throw away or sneeze at! Do things to take your mind off of it....go to a gym, get in shape, have a makeover, take dance classes! If you do get the chance to get in bed with him again, make it last and make it hot! Hang in there and good luck!
2007-01-15 19:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid life crisis. You can ride it out or move on. He may move on no matter what you do or don't do. Here is a great website. Focus on yourself so that no matter waht happens, you will have a good life.
http://www.midlifeclub.com/
2007-01-15 19:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly let him go if he comes back hes yours
dont be used or put your life on hold for him .
its not selfish to move on he's being selfish by leaving you hanging!
find yourself and beautiful man and move on!
good luck
2007-01-15 19:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND MAYBE WHEN HE SEES THAT YOU HAVE, HE WILL RUN BACK. MAYBE HE WON'T. BUT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW UNTIL YOU GIVE HIM THAT SPACE HE IS ASKING YOU FOR.
2007-01-15 19:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by CARAMIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going out and enjoying yourself, and make sure he nos you will find out fast what he wants....Good luck...........
2007-01-15 19:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋