Why don't a lot of young women like to be feminine anymore?

Question

Is there something wrong with girls actually wanting to act like girls? How come so many girls act like frat boys or like the're auditioning for the Springer show?

Answer 1

Most younger women have bought into the view that the best way forward is to have everything that men have had in the past, in a material and social sense, and most women have not had.

So, in the US at least, there are many respects in which women and men are almost indistinguishable in social behaviour and status. And it even shows itself in clothes and often even in hairstyle (or lack of it). The only obvious difference between the sexes can sometimes be the rather strange, in the circumstances, retention by women of the idea that even a feminist needs at least the appearance of a large bust (real or otherwise).

Now, without commenting on the desirability of otherwise of current social trends, one this most certainly does, quite unintentionally, is offer a tremendous opportunity for girls who take a somewhat different approach. There are litterally millions of guys out there looking for girls who enjoy being feminine. And very little competition from other women for them. Or at least an obviously-feminine girl is in there with a dramatic head start.

It doesn't even take all that much effort. If you're looking for the recipe

* Long hair (sure winner, every time)

* Don't even need makeup and probably more effective without it. But if you're going for a feminine approach make sure you shave off any moustache growth.

* Soft bra that shows the real shape of your breasts -- no, they don't need to be big, but they do need to be obviously genuine. Tiny but obviously-real are infinitely better than padded-out or molded-bra huge.

* Skirts or dresses

* Sheer pantyhose or bare legs, shaved every day if necessary.

* A soft voice

* A ready smile

* A genuine interest in guys as people.

And that's it. Guys can't resist it. And it even counts in many situations when job-hunting, at least if the boss is male!

The only wonder is that more girls haven't tumbled to the opportunity that's there, for any girl who's prepared to buck the trend.

Answer 2

well why do so many boys act that way?
Because it's more fun then sitting around and knitting a sweater. I mean many still enjoy being feminine, but many have also decided to go down another route.
Young women are grwoing up in a new time now, the same things aren't being asked of us that once were. We're taught that it's ok to run around and act like frat boys, we don't have to just sit around in our skirts and wait for the boys to come to us.
It's liberating to act that way. We are doing somethign that our grandmothers were afraid to do.

Answer 3

Many women have forgetten what it is to be feminie. They have been so busy fighting to have the same rights as men that they have forgotten about the rights they already have as women, to be feminine and embrace their womenhood.

Women have turned feminintiy into something that is seen as weak and it is a huge error. The strength of a woman lies in the very fact that she is different from a man and entitled to be so. I am all for equality but I want it as a woman, not a woman who feels she has to become manly to be taken seriously.

I love being a woman and I love behaving like a woman. I love being accpeted and respected as a woman but this mainly comes from men. Less women have respect for other feminine women because THEY see it as a weakness. They will learn. Men have way more respect for a woman who respects themselves as such.

Women who think they have to behave more like men dont have the foresight to see that behaving like a man isnt really helping woman to be treated equally, as a woman.

I am respected and treated equally as a feminine, natural, woman. The ones who are ranting about being oppressed must be doing something wrong because gaining respect and equality as a woman really isnt all that difficult these days.

Karma.
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Answer 4

i really honestly think that young women today are more confused than men....they want to be treated like women but they cant because they're too busy acting like guys. they do not realise that in the long run its hurting them...just think, no more opening doors for you, no more paying for dinner, no more expensive engagement rings, no more respect.... We have reached a point in time where its perfectly acceptable to have a potty mouth in front of a woman when in the old days, women were more respected. Now its ok to slap a young lady in the back of the head or a punch in the arm cause hey...she's one of the guys.

Answer 5

A lot of them do, as well.

Lots of young girls are beginning to see that being "manly" gets them treated differently - and that ain't always so good.

I happen to like it when I get treated like the delicate flower that I am...:) AND I make more money than my husband, too. But I pour him a drink at night, and he opens my doors. I flirt and play little games that make him smile, and he treats me like I am the center of his universe. It's good.

I think the pendulum will swing back this way soon. Being a feminist is really not as great as it is cracked up to be.

Being a womanly woman, strong where she should be strong, and weak and submissive where she should be, adds a really nice balance to any relationship. NOT to be mistreated, but to be treated like a lady, one should act like a lady. Doesn't take a really smart woman (which I AM) to figure that one out.

Answer 6

Too many people act like they're auditioning for the Springer show.

BUT...being feminine means being weak, sissy, submissive and has a lot of bad connotations. Girls these days want to be considered as equal to their male counterparts: ambitious, reliable, analytical, sensible and intelligent. No more dumb females around...

Answer 7

Some people keep harping about how un-feminine women are now. Unfortunately, you don't really give any examples as to what you(the asker) believes feminine is. Wanting to party and acting low class aren't really a guy thing, so please be more specific in your examples.

Answer 8

Society treats feminine girls like they are stupid and manipulative. If a girl acts weak, shy and dependent on men, people take advantage of her. Tough looking women don't get ragged around so much and people don't think masculine women are manipulative...trying to get guys to do things for them that they can really do themselves.

Sociolinguistics states that people with high voices aren't trusted and believed in court so women who want to be believed naturally lower their voices to sound more like a man's. Society just treats men better than it treats women and women want to be treated the way a man is so they act like men and usually get the respect they are looking for.

Girls today don't want guys opening doors and pulling out chairs for them as much as they want to be taken seriously.

By the way, why is it okay (and even expected) for men to be demanding and overbearing but not okay for women? Today's woman is going to make it okay...Society will have get over it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander my grandpa used to say.

Answer 9

I get that. I used to be like that. But I made it a point to change, mostly because I was attracting all the wrong guys. I learned that if I behave in a way for a man to open the door for me, I will attract a man that will want to open the door for me. I have a keeper now. He's "masculine" ad I am "feminine," and we are both equal to one another in our own eyes and in the eyes of one another.

Answer 10

Because we're sick of being protrayed as sex objects. We are just as capable as men and want to be treated as such. Girls that go arounf with fakey high pitched little kid voices, with a "help me" attitude and putting their bodies on display are doing an injustice to other women. I, for one, know I am capable and worth much more than that. Sometimes I dress up, wear pink or a pretty, feminine skirt and put my hair up nice but thats just because I want to feel good about myself. Other times I just throw on a pair of sweatpants and put my hair in a ponytail with just some mascara and head out the door. Its more comfortable- and I'm still pretty. I'm not going to put on a phony "feminine", dumb girl persona just to show off to men.


Doesn't take a smart woman to realize that women don't HAVE to be weak or submissive at all. I don't have to bring my husband a drink every evening for him to respect me- and he STILL opens doors for me. I cook, he cooks, I work, he works, I clean, he cleans. Thats the way it should be. Just because I have feminie reproductive parts doesn't mean that I should be submissive to him. Just because we have always lived in a patriarchial society doesn't mean its the right way. I'm glad more women and men are realizing this.