How do you stop a 7 year old girl from bullying her younger siblings?

Question

they are two girls aged 5 and 14months and one boy aged 3. The 7 year old name calls, hit's, pushes and throws things at them.

Answer 1

she's jealus

Answer 2

I think she probably just feels left out and a bit jealous. I think its important to establish a team attitude between siblings, you want to create an environment where they are looking out for each other, but also weekly one on one times with the older siblings would be benificial.
Encourage family game time, board games in the winter and outdoor games in the summer. Make a fuss of everyone winners or losers give special praise to gracious winners and good losers.
Try and get your eldest two to work together for a common goal set them chores they need to do together and do them nicely together to earn a treat for the house.
Then have one on one time, bedtime is good for a cuddle and a chat tell her all the things she did that day that you were proud of. 'Well done for sharing with your sister honey, that was great.' and those sort of things. Have a worry box where she can write down anything thats bothering her and post it in, you then read them together and address the problems.
Try and engage them in fun activities if problems arrise like throwing or hitting remover her from the room to a quiet space. Try not to lose your cool ask her to leave the room to calm down and she can come back in when she appologises and will play nicely.
I hope some of these ideas will help you, best of luck!

Answer 3

exclude the little darling from family games and sit her on the step every time she is naughty for 7 Min's. try sitting and explaining to her why it isn't right in a calm way and try to find out why she does it...likely hood is its for attention and understandably the younger siblings need more attention because of their ages....try putting aside some time to be spent with the 7 year old 1 2 1 doing something she enjoys or simply sitting and watching a film with her....good luck

Answer 4

Poor you I remember it well. as so many of the answers say it is jealousy. She obviously feels they get more than their fair share of attention-not your fault it is inevitable with their ages. My oldest used to keep asking what we had been doing while she was at school-just incase she had missed a treat they had got. If I bought them anything I always bought her an equivalent gift.
When she starts throwing things and having a tantrum we were taught to hold onto her but in a firm cuddle sort of way. Hard to describe without a picture but if you sit down and wrap your arms around her and hold her legs between yours(if she is standing) or wrap one leg round hers just so there are no flailing limbs to cause damage then just hold on tight til she calms down just talking to her calmly telling her how much you love her and want her. I used to get her to help with the younger children-not in a chores kind of way but just making her feel needed.
Hope this helps. My mum used to say children don't improve with age-they just stay away from the house for longer periods! Hang in there. I survived and now have 2 adorable grandchildren from my eldest daughter who is really close to me now! The grandaughter is 3 and the grandson is 1 and she is having jealousy problems already! I just remind her what she was like and try to repeat what I was taught. Good luck.

Answer 5

Unfortunately this problem occurs in every household where there is more than one child. You could try talking to her and explain that when she gets older she will start to rely on them for friendship just as i have done with my brothers and sisters, If you had seen us 20yrs ago fighting and falling out you would never believe we are the same family today. It will get easier but be firm like my parents were it didn't do us any harm. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sit her down and talk to her, she is old enough to understand. Then pay her more attention, it is more than likely an attention thing because you are looking after the younger ones. Get her to help with looking after her siblings and try to refrain from telling her off so much for her little jealous outbursts.
I think she is feeling left out because the younger ones take so much of your time, she needs mummy and daddy time to herself now and again.

Answer 7

There's playing around and then there's bullying. What your brothers did was bullying. You should've taken the kids somewhere else or called someone to pick the kids up. Your brothers enjoy terrorizing kids. Did your parents punish them yet? If not, your brothers will just do it again.

Answer 8

like sister like brother I have a bro younger than me and a sister and 3 sisters older you have 2 make sure that they all get treated same and let her do stuff as shes the oldest like stay that 10 minutes longer up before she goes 2 bed but if she does hurt any of the others then she doesnt get that privolidge if you no wot im gettin at ! xx

Answer 9

my nine year old son is allways bulling his 5 year old sister it drives you nuts but were not alone iv spoke to loads of parents and they say theres is the same no mater what age i just try to separate them best i can like sending them to there roms to cool of for a while and then try again usually it works for a little while then they kick of again let me know if you find the answer as i would love them to get on i dont ever remember being like this with my brother.

Answer 10

Send them to their room for a while and make them apologise
Don't give in to their screams and tantrums, it works If you pretend you can't hear them(It's hard but it works)

A child will always push out the boundaries,but they become a lot more secure if you stick to them!

If you make the child feel that it's not acceptable and show them you are willing to to alienate them,they will change their attitude immediately.

If you spank the child every time they upset you ,they will follow in your footsteps and hit anyone who upsets them as they believe that's how to respond.

Get her involved with the others in a nice way, get her to pass you what you need when feeding and changing and praise her for this ,she will soon come to love them,as she will see them as a way to reward herself.

I still have to send my youngest to her room when she acts up, and it kills me ,but i'm the first person she wants a hug from afterwards.

Answer 11

Have U tryed time outs? I have a gril and
3 boys. It never stops Now they are 16, 17, 18, 19, and still happens...........