My husband and I have been together for over 5 years, married for a year. I found porno graphic pictures that was being sent to him by his friends and then my husband would forward them to others. I was very hurt, becasue me husband plays this role of porno being bad and he doesn't even want us to watch things like this together even if I want too. Now, I feel like he is a fake and a liar. I confronted him and he said that he can't control what his friends send him. I understand that, but he is not telling his friends to stop. He is accepting them and forwarding them to others. I am so pissed at him because he gets mad at me if I watch any type of men on TV that are models or calendar pin ups. Should I be mad at him or is this nothing to worry about. Please comment!
2007-01-15 10:45:35 · 21 answers · asked by September 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is nothing to worry about but if you want ill come watch porn with you well fix him
2007-01-15 10:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by cmann70726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is getting those from his buddies like he says he is then why is he forwarding them to others as well. We all need to understand that we are not going to be the only person our spouse is looking at so therefore your husband needs to not be so insecure. He thinks it is ok for him to look but as far as you looking he will not put up with it. Men are visual he is going to look at some form of porn one way or another. He is lying to protect himself for not allowing you to see attractive men. He needs to get over it. If he does not want that type of material on his phone he could simply delete it. Him sending it to his buddies is a macho thing.
2007-01-15 11:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start having your friends send you porno pics of men on your phone since that is apparently acceptable.
2007-01-15 10:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I in no way had a blackberry, so I actually don't understand how they artwork. although, i will say this, your guy should not be saving photos of alternative women in his telephone. i might start to question besides seeing this is in simple terms unusual to be saving a photograph of a few random female. that's incredibly helpful to look into it just to verify he's not enjoying around at the back of your back. examine the telephone information.
2016-12-12 12:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be mad at him for being a pretentious hypocritical liar. There's nothing wrong with porn itself, sounds like both of you have to get over it and look at whatever it is you want to look at.
2007-01-15 11:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either ignore it...or make a big deal out of it...either way He will still look at porno, if you make a big deal out of it he will just hide it from you...
and why are you looking through his phone anyway? Insecure much?
2007-01-15 10:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Federal Agent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your husband is a liar who enjoys porn. I bet you feel really betrayed. That's how I felt when I discovered porn on my computer. Let him know that you won't put up with that in your marriage - and have him send a text message to his friends requesting that they keep the porn to themselves.
2007-01-15 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same predicament last month I told my husband to tell his co-workers to stop sending pornography, because sometimes I picked up his cell phone, and that I was disgusted by it all. He told them and it stopped.
2007-01-15 10:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first saw your question i was going to say no my bf had one sent to my phone by a friend.. but if he dont like you doing it and is a prude if you want to watch porno .. then i would say no it is not ok and he is a jealous prick
2007-01-15 13:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that whats good for the goose is good for the gander.
He doesnt want to tell his friends to stop because then his friends
will call him names......whipped, etc. He is not man enough
to stand up to them for you.
Any time he comments on what you are watching.....
Tell him "what is good for the goose is good for the gander".
Explain to him that means if he can do it.......so can you.
2007-01-15 10:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel i am totally against porn and have had i dont know how many fights over it. the way i see it is if hes happy with me why does he need to look at others to get his kicks. sorry but i dont think its right- you have every reason to be mad - at least thats my opinion
2007-01-15 10:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋