How do you make freinds if you have none?

Question

I've had no freinds in 2 years.

I rarely make conversations at school.The thing is.
I feel because i have no friends i don't want to come out of my shell because i don't want people to find out i'm a loner.They'll inevitably ask me who i hang around with and i won't know what to say.

I can either lie or tell them the truth and leave myself open to being known as a loner.At the moment they probly don't know for sure i'm a loner in school & outside school.


p.s i've never been verbally or physically bullied.

Answer 1

If you are still in high school then don't worry about it. high school is pretty much a fake world and people do not act this way in "real life". You can always lie and say that none of your friends go to the same school as you do. but I suggest joining a club or something to get to know a few people. :)

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being a loner. Some people have a harder time at opening up about themselves and letting others in their heart. That is nothing to feel bad about. However, it is healthy if you were able to open up your heart somewhat to let others in to see the wonderful person that you are. I would say to have a friend why don't you just pick one person to try and build a friendship with. When you see that person you could start saying hello - try that for a week or two, then the next week try to take it a little further by asking how they are doing and how was their weekend and move the conversation along like that. Before you know it, you will have one friend and you would find it much easier to start the same trend with others. Before you know it, you will have a ton of friends. And don't be afraid to not be friends because you think people will not like you if they found out who you really are on the inside. There are tons of people out there who would love to get to know you.

All The Best!!

Answer 3

Hey.. I was like you once.. In my old school, i guess i was kinda a loner but yet i had friends.. What you need to do from highschooler to highschool is yea just open up.. Who gives a flying F*** of what people think.. If you go threw life lieing about how you really are.. You find a girl/guy you like so much.. They find out how you really are.. Its gunna hurt you and the other.. Open up.. I did it.. I had tons of friends.. Be yourself.. Yea were in highschool.. Drama Central.. Wait till college or when you get a job to care of what people think.. If you are who you really are.. people will like you ALOT more than a FAKE.. Be you and don't let anyone else tell you diffrently..

Answer 4

Being a loner's alright. I'm generally a loner at school too. The thing is I don't care anymore, and once I stopped caring I was a lot more open to the people around me and I could talk to them without running away mid-conversation.
Friends are always good to have, there's no denying it. But it's great to be alone sometimes and relax.
And if people ask who you hang around with you can say straight out that you don't have certain people to hang with. Who cares what they think? No one can make friends without being themselves first.

Best of luck to you. (n_n)

Answer 5

Do you LIKE being a loaner?? If so.....dont worry about it.
If you want friends you will have to come out of your shell.
When people ask simply say.....yah, I was a loaner, but decided
to step outside of my box and see what I'm missing. Some people are going to think you are a weirdo, but remember it has nothing to do with you......it has to do with their insecurities. Alot of people are NOTHING without others. All this will do is show some people that you are secure in yourself.......and if you're not.... no worries........they wont know unless you tell them.

Also, a good idea is to find something that you could be interested in and join a club at school......that will help with
meeting people.

Good luck

Answer 6

this depends...do you want a friend? No since in trying to be a friend if you don't want one. If you want a friend, pick wisely. Quality of friends are waaaaay more important that quantity of friends. Watch and observe somebody you find interesting and then just approach that person. You can be witty, a new friendship shouldn't be started on a very serious note because it may scare the other person off. Then just be you. Friendship takes maintenance, but it shouldn't be work.

Answer 7

i look like u, but not totally, i ve now friends, but not a lot , u can say totally in net and outside 7 friends, among which i ve 3 real friends. so, u shuld involve with people and ask the ones u want to be his or her friend to be ur friend, it s easy but try, i know u used to be alone, so do not add much, only if u want 3 or 4 real ones that u can keep their friendship and give it the real value. and not millions for nothing as if they re wallpapers on the wall.

Answer 8

you can have friends everywhere. you may want to come out of your shell though. in order to interact and socialize. i'm glad you haven't been bullied. get your nerve up, talk. find others interest. that will give you something in common to talk about. join the gym. or an after school club. too much for ya? take small steps. you have a cousin? a brother? thats how i broke a lot of ice, through them.

Answer 9

Do lie if it´s necessary to start, gain confidence, be a man, and then once you get the friends you can start letting them know your past, but if you don´t they´ll probably would think bad of you and won´t give you the same opportunity as if you acted as having friends.
About bulling, if you have the balls just the first time they try to do it, they ´ll never do it again.
Watch Scarface and gain confidence.

Answer 10

you should get some hobbies, join a club or a sports team, start mixing with other kids and you'l soon make loadsa friends. dont worry now about what they might ask you, chances are they wont. jus relax and have fun .