(or as bad, for that matter.)
2007-01-15 10:25:15 · 18 answers · asked by truthyness 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
There are two reasons for "no", I think-one is that our minds are by nature more nostalgic than we realise. We tend to dramatise, embelish and sometimes downplay the happiness or boredom etc of our past-call them the good ole days when there was something that we took for granted that we don't have now-but we forget the pressures and problems of the time too. "Wow, my student life was great!"-but remember the 24/7 pasta/cereal diet, long walks in rain and no moneyness?! But this is all ok, because we have reason no. 2 to compliment this half truth/half fictional memory, and that is that memories serve us in a completely different way to life and living. We need them to validate ourselves, and so turn something from negative to positive, or merely sway the balance to make it fit more snugly in our romantic and ideal vision. Memories are not accurate, and we add to them without realising most of the time, and since two people at the same point and space in time can have radically independent and different views of the same event, surely that tells us that memories are what WE make them, and they HAVE to be better and worse than the real event-because they are ours-WE MADE THEM! and when you look at your past-aren't memories all we have in life, and aren;t they the only real freedom we have. I think they are worth cherishing as our own true creations and experiences, imagined, over-developed or true.
so i think the answer is-no-memory usually supercedes event in my opinion.
Hope this ranting helped-kudos if you read it all without coffee!
Shane
2007-01-15 10:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by frosty_taz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. You get a star. :) I think our memories are not reliable at all and that's OK. When I think back on some times of my life, I don't remember the bad stuff and that's OK with me as long as I'm aware of it and not deluding myself. On the other hand, my dad died when I was 8 and I think the event was much worse than my memory of it. Same goes for when my mom died when I was 35. It doesn't hurt nearly as much now as it did at the time. So I think our memories can be our best friends in that way. I, for one, am glad I have all those fond memories to look back on and can't really remember the horrible ones.
2007-01-21 07:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by kaycee99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question. Sometimes in the moment we do not realize how good (or bad) something really is. Later on, we reminsce about the occurrence and remember what a good (or bad) time we had. So the question is, really, is remembering the event considered being the memory is better (or worse), or does the fact that we were not able to realize in the moment how great (or bad) something really was, play a role in answering this question?
2007-01-15 18:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you live it. Usually we only realize how good something was when it's over and it is just a memory in our minds.
Once when I was in high school, there was a girl I liked a lot, but we were incompatible, she was a party girl and I was a home boy. So I knew I wouldn't see her again when that year finished. Well I became really aware of the time we spent together and the fun we had. I learned my lesson, and now whenever I do something I like like playing sports, I enjoy playing that sport, and I enjoy the fact that I am doing something I like, I'm aware of doing that. So the events for me are much better than the memories they will leave in my mind.
Bad things we are aware of them pronto.
2007-01-15 18:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dolphin-SSA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have often thought that someone who over plans something, like a wedding, will replay the event in their minds while planning so much that the actual event will not be as wonderful as what they have aleadry lived over and over and then it won't be as special. So I think the same could be of an event already passed, and the person adding details that would make the event better in their minds.
2007-01-15 18:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An event can only be 'perceived' as good or bad depending on when it is you are remembering it.
Example..I served in the United States Navy.
While in I could not wait till I was out. I remember that I had some terrific experiences during my enlistment.
Now, many years later I look back and Fondly remember my service days, even knowing that the experience itself was not all that fun.
2007-01-23 16:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by DanielofD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An event is only as good as our memory imagines it
2007-01-23 04:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The event is the best. Memories fade.
2007-01-15 18:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's both Truthy, depending on what the outcome of it was or on the bad side what you made of it, and what your learned from it.
As for the memory, well....., that always remains as either awesome, great, good, fabulous or terrible, regretful, sorry or bad.
If it was bad, like one of my favorite song says:........ Don't lose your confidence if you failed, be grateful for a pleasant trip, just pick yourself up dust yourself off and start all over again..., we have to be grateful for a pleasant trip, (for everything, I give thanks).
2007-01-16 00:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because it's the origin of the memory. Could a picture be more beautiful than the image it was painted after?
2007-01-15 20:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋