I know I am 18, however, when I met the man of my dreams we got married. That happened when I was 17. Now, I have lost all my friends. I can't figure out why. And I am devistated. I just now called my so-called best friend [the girl who was my maid of honor] to chat. SHE HUNG UP ON ME. I have no idea what it is that made everyone NOT like me. Please help me!
2007-01-15 10:17:51 · 15 answers · asked by killer ronda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey ill be ur friend lol
2007-01-15 10:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by ivor 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, I was pregnant at 18 and lost all of my friends. We kept in contact for a while, but we just grew apart. Now that I am with a man who is 13 years older than me and i have a 3 year old daughter, people at my maturity level are 35-40 and see me as a daughter and people who are around my age all want to party. It is a long lonely road, i only have my boyfriend and my daughter now. At least you are only married, you just need to find another young married couple.
2007-01-15 18:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps your friends feel deserted after you and your guy married? it depends on whether or not you treat them right anymore, talk to them a little every week at least to keep in touch and to still be close, or if you are rude to them now that you may have the stress from marriage put on you. if you do any, or all of those things above, your pals could feel hurt and think that you aren't trying to mend the brokenness of your friendship between you all. there is also a possibility that your guy could've been mean to them without you knowing, and maybe they think that you know about it, do not care, and that you aren't bothering to find out what is wrong or what happened. call them and be the more bigger, better person in the situation, but don't get a swelled head- have a heart to heart and ask them what is wrong and how you could make it up to them. be honest, kind, and as forgiving as possible. try to convince them that you love them and that they will always be your buds and that you are hurting so much inside when they aren't talking to you, or trying to make up with you. good luck and i hope everything works out- remember that a kind answer soothes angry feelings.
2007-01-15 18:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be jeolousy....
Could be a lot of things really.
What is happening is pretty normal. Throughout life, people who grow up together may just drift apart and go their separate ways.
You will come across many more friends and aquaintences who you cross paths with throughout your life. Some will be for a short period of time, some may come and go and come back again, others may be friends till the very end.
There must be a reason for her to hang up on you. Are you sure you didnt say something to make her do that? Try to talk to her again and ask her straight out to find out whats up.
Maybe your friends feel that now you have a husband, you dont need them anymore...
2007-01-15 18:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not call her back and ask her? I am sure if you approach it in a very civil way then she will at the very least tell you. You were not one of those Bridezillas were you that was absolutely horrendous to everyone just to make your wedding perfect?
Sometimes when someone marries young the other friends who are still enjoying dating and such grow apart. However I sense that there is some animosity and I would be curious to get to the bottom of it. Good luck.
2007-01-15 18:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the guy has made a move on them and they don't want to tell you. Or they are jealous because you got him beofre they did. MAybe if you see her in the store or something go up to them and ask what's the trouble. And if you need a friend, hey just IM me anytime.
2007-01-15 18:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it possible that you alienated your friends after you married? Or that perhaps your husband has frightened all of your friends? I would try making a face to face visit to an old friend and try and get to the bottom of the problem. Perhaps it is a misunderstanding.
2007-01-15 18:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by bluebettalady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this may be because you married so young, some friends may feel like you have changed, like your leaving them behind, they may also be concerned for you since you've married so young, try talking to them, and try going to classes of hobbies that you like to do (skating, sewing etc.) you will easily make new friends there.
hope this helps
2007-01-15 18:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by `~*Scream*Me*A*Love*Song*~` 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, hate to say this but when you get married, especially so young, your friends will disappear. they figure, "hey she has her HUSBAND and so she has found the man of her dreams and i am still looking. not fair." see, its mostly jealously but do not say that to them, then you will really loose them. i am sorry that you are devestated but hey, at least you have your husband.
2007-01-15 18:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by shutgstr1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got married before her....More likely she really wasn't your true friend. Make new friends...
2007-01-15 18:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by railroad_joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you did something to piss them off maybe they are just jealous. or maybe they regret that your married and not out partying and having fun with them
2007-01-15 18:23:30 · answer #11 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋