i have no friends at all and its making me depressed.?

Question

I really need some help because this problem is really eating me up inside. I dont have any friends. im 20 and in second year at university. I only have two friends but they are not allowed to go out at night and have a social life. I di
I try to makea real effort to talk to people but i just get no where. We just end up as acquaintances. I was bullied at school, which i suppose had a profound effect on me making friends. At college i was very very shy and didnt make any friends. I keep myself to myself blurring intot eh background. I pretended everything was ok, going to college to do my work coming home again like a routine. I feel like i cnat go on anymore. i ask myself again and again why this is happening to me. i am very shy and clam up. i have so much to give but im not very confidant. i wish i could just meet someone who shows some interest in me. I need serious help, i have no boyfriend either. i want a normal life, mates, kids, marraige. I dont think i can carry on anymore.

I know my grammar isnt good. Believe me, i dont write like this as a rule. Im sorry, i feel very depressed at this minute.

Answer 1

Hi. I'm "Dutch"'s daughter. I'm 17, a senior in high school. I often feel like a have a similar problem. I often fade into the background and find it nearly impossible to be confident around anyone other than my good friends. However, I notice that I feel my best when I exercise. Exercise increases the production of endorphins in your body, the hormone that makes you feel happy and more confident. Also, exercise and pampering yourself will make you feel more confident about the way you look. If you know you look good, you are more likely to act like it. I would also recommend that you join a club or organization or get a job. Stick with it. Work your way up in the ranks. That way you can feel surperior (or just equal) to others around you. I always feel more confident when I feel established somewhere and know more than the newbies. You need to prove to yourself that you are just as good as everyone else and find ways that others are equally as insecure and human as you. Also, you may (if you are not already) consider living oncampus. Many universities place students with similar interests in rooms in the same hall. Dormitories usually have planned floor activities weekly or monthly. You may even try a "potluck" rooming assignment and see what you get.
Just remember it's never to late to find new friends or make those acquaintances better friends. Just this year, I made a 4-year-acquaintance one of my best friends. We participated in a common activity and realized how much we have in common.
Last but not least, you may want to see your university psychologist for someone to vent to. He or she may also offer advice... or even be able to introduce you to other students whom you will get along well with.
Also you wrote that you wish you could meet someone who shows interest in you. Well, oftentimes someone may be interested, but unless you look open and friendly, he or she will not want to start a conversation.
Best of luck.

Answer 2

Whatever you do, don't give up! Don't just end life cause its getting tough! If you have so much to offer than do something about it! Join a club or help people by donating to a charity. Friends a hard to make but as long as you give an effort you will make friends. Start up a conversation like "hey, have you seen the movie...." Or "I love the necklace you're wearing, where did you get it?" Most importantly, pray to God because he will give you the most help out of anyone. And if you still feel like you are not getting anywhere then maybe you should get professional help in case you do have major depression. Remember psychiatrists are here to help you not hurt you. I wish you the best of luck. God bless you.

Answer 3

ok first i understand,i know what it's like im 22 years old with 3 kids and a single parent.i dont know anyone and its hard to meet people at this age cuz everyone else has know there friends for sometime now u knowand everyone i met is like oh u have kids so u dont really do anything then right,but thats not true given the right people which i thought were worth it i would make arrangements.looki know it hard but youll get through it and meet some really nice people out there that will see how nice u are and go out of there way to met u.give it time and dont lose hope.

Answer 4

You can carry on. What do you like to do? Read? write? comedy? Try joining a club. Getting a job where you have to be a people person might help you feel more confident talking to people.

Don't think it's easy for everyone to make friends. Some people yes, but it's not the quantity, but the quality. Do something you enjoy and you'll find other people who share the same traits.

Answer 5

WELL FIRST OF ALL DO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS CHRIST??? BECAUSE IN THE END, GOD WILL BE THE ONLY PERSON THERE FOR YOU. I SOMETIMES THINK THAT HAVING SOOO MANY FRIENDS CAN BE SO OVER RATED. WHAT TYPE OF FRIENDS WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE? MAYBE YOU SHOULD HANG OUT AT THE CHURCH IF YOU WANT GODLY FRIENDS. OR HANG OUT ANY PLACE THAT YOU ENJOY GOING. SORRY I AM PROBABLY NOT HELPING TO MUCH. BUT REMEMBER THAT IT IS BETTER TO HAVE A FEW FRIENDS THAN TO HAVE A LOT OF PEOPLE PRETENDING TO BE YOUR FRIEND. DON'T WORRY THINGS WILL GET BETTER. THE BEST ADVICE TO GIVE WOULD BE TO GET A CLOSER RELATIONSHIP TO GOD.

Answer 6

Just keep your head held high and you will meet friends sometime i have some of the same problems but life allways gets better even when it doesn't seem that way.you can count me as a friend and you can find me on yahoo or myspace.my screen name is the same on both just add @yahoo.com.and i will help you anyway i can.

Answer 7

you need to build up your confidence and one way to do that is to build up friends online first since it is a safe way to have a way of developing confidence. We had one person in our group who was very much in a shell and we brought her out of that by helping her feel better about herself to where she is pretty outgoing now.
You can also find friends by doing things that involve groups, like a bowling league, for one example.
My email is listed so contact me if you want some online friends and I will introduce you to people in Canada, California, Ohio and a few other friends - all female since I am co-admin of everydaywomeneverywhere.org, and we are all ready to help in whatever way we can.

Answer 8

maybe you should try getting a myspace its a great place to make new friends and meet new people! LOL! p.S ill Be your friend!

Answer 9

To be in your second year at a University your grammar sure could use some polishing up. Your not disingenuous are you?

Answer 10

maybe u should get drunk a go to a club and college to loosen up a bite. Just go up to someone and start talking about sex that will always get a conversation going,