Im great friends with a young man who is so sweet, kind, nice, just has great personality traits. But he has a disorder that when he gets really angry he turns into "jack" this "jack" hates my friend and my friend is completely controlled by this "jack" ive talked to jack and hes is completely different and evil compared to my friend. I feel alittle scared when I talk to him. But its only temporary, after alittle while my friend "comes back" and i tell him and he appologizes greatly, and doesnt like it when jack comes out infront of me. I seems like he doesnt relieze jack has come out at that moment. my friend knows about jack and says its the "evil side of my brain". ... I really want to help him, for his sake. is there anyway that I can? does anyone have useful info in this topic? and has anyone experianced it with a friend or relative? thanks for your time.
2007-01-15 10:09:24 · 4 answers · asked by NK 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You really need to make sure your friend gets into some sort of therapy. There is honestly nothing you can do personally unless you have the proper training to do so. Just be supportive in his effort to get better. Good luck.
2007-01-15 10:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi NK. I believe split-personalites or 'Multiple Personality Disorder' is just one of the many thousands of coping mechanisms/masks we employ. This one in particular is an effort to release rage and anger without the consequences of rejection, scorn or embarassment. We all do it to a degree when we lash out at a loved-one then ask for forgiveness.
This is a serious problem of disassociation.
This is my personal, friendly advice. Help your friend, but only to the extent that can do so in a healthy, unthreatening environment. I would not want to be around anyone who detaches themselves from personal and social responsibility.
Alcoholics and drug abusers do this disassociation very well. 'Oh, I didn't mean to say that. That was the booze talking, not me.'
How does someone get help with disassociation? Learn, as a child should, how to employ healthy anger and frustration. Let your friend know that it is ok for him (not an alter ego) to be angry and still be accepted. It would also be helpful to know what he gets so angry about. It is personal control? Is it relational control? What is it that he can not cope with in a healthy way. That's the only way healing and helping can begin.
Best wishes!
2007-01-15 10:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Darbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im truly soorry about your friend.Here is a good way this might help.When JACK is around just be nice talk to him like you do when he is gone.Don' be scared just act normal are around him.Hope it works for ya
Otis
2007-01-15 10:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch me, myself and Irene, or last Friday's psych episode
2007-01-15 10:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by king_art_thegreat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋