Trying to figure out that age old question we men have. What does a woman need most to remain happy and present in the relationship?? What is the number one mistake us guys make??
2007-01-15 10:08:36 · 28 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the #1 mistake guys in general make, is thinking they can "make" their partner happy. You can't. Each person is responsible for their own happiness and although you can contribute to that or cause it to be even better, you cannot make anyone happy, sad, mad, or anything else. How they feel and choose to react, is up to them.
What women need to do is make themselves happy and not expect their significant others to provide that for them. When each person is digging themselves, kewl with their life, and overall in a good place is when they are ready to be a good partner to someone else.
2007-01-15 10:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that that answer could be different depending on the
woman. But personally speaking I love when my man just
remembers me. No matter what it pertains to. Maybe we
are just watching TV and he reaches over and touches my hand
or gets up to get a drink and without even asking brings me
a drink as well. It doesn't have to be flowers and candy. The
small things mean a lot. Also when a woman feels safe with
who she's with means a lot. Just knowing he is going to be there
each day and if there is a time she just needs someone to listen
to her knowing he is there makes you feel all warm and gooey
inside. For me the biggest mistake my man can make is (besides screwing around) would be to check out other women in
front of me. Most women already work very hard to please their man and to keep the attraction alive and when he checks out
other women it makes us feel like we are not good enough or like
we are missing something. Thanks to the public display of women we already feel everyday is a competition for us.
2007-01-15 10:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women need to know that their loved. That their man just isn't going to up and bail on them when they shed a few tears and need them the most. One of the many mistakes that men make is that they take their lady for granted. They quit bringing that extra effort to the relationship when they put the ring on the girls finger.
2007-01-15 10:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by STARS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyones values are somewhat different, but for myself, first and foremost COMMUNICATION. Communication leads to so many other things, with trust, commitment, and companionship, those things all lead to a happy "loving" relationship.
As for the number 1 mistake, again, I think that varies. I think it varies in a womans eyes than from a mans, and I think age has alot to do with it. I think at different ages, men and women, different things are priorities to us, so the number one mistake can change in that of man of 21 yrs of age and engaged, to that of 40 year old man married with kids. So - now that I have rambled, I guess I don't have a good answer for part 2 of your question!! sorry
2007-01-15 10:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We need the same things that men pretend they want. Love, respect, understanding, trust.
The biggest mistake, is probably lying and cheating. If you want out of the relationship, be honset and say so. Don't play games and lead women on.
2007-01-15 10:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that my man has my back. Loves me unconditionally. Respects me and is my best friend. These are things that make me happy and keep me content (Oh, and good sex too) But I think the one mistake that men make are becoming comfortable and not doing all of the little things that they did in the beginning that attracted us to them in the first place.
2007-01-15 10:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by blaak_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mistakes: making work, friends and family and pets more important than her. not being on 'her side'. not making her feel protected. being unkind.
needed most: being confident in your abilities to take care of her and possible family, being supportive and genuinely interested in her and what she does and why, remind her why you work so hard...because you care. be kind and understanding that every month she is crazy for a week...thats what makes her a woman and able to accept quirks and foregive mistakes from you.
tell her she's beautiful in front of other women....make those other ladies wish they could 'clone' you. hehe peace
well, thats a few ...good luck with it
2007-01-15 10:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The number one? For me it has to be attention. Everything else is negotiable but if he isn't there, if he can't 'see' me then nothing else really matters. I first need to know that he is focused on me, that the relationship is a priority to him and that at least in the important matters, I come first.
2007-01-15 10:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me make your worlds a bit easier fellas. It is really simple. Women just want their man to truley and self-lessly care about them. Sure you don't want them to be sad or anything bad happen to them, but think about what their life is like and want to make it better. Truely care about what her life is like and not how it effects your life. Because to care only if she is happy, is kind of selfish because you just want her to be happy with you and your relationship. But when you can stop thinking about how it effects your life and focus on really understanding what her life is like and do the little things to make it better, she will be happy.
2007-01-15 10:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by tightlies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say a man that is not afraid to show me he loves me nothing beats being loved by the man you are with, and men assume too much about women you want to know something ask.
2007-01-15 10:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋