Me and my husband work at the same place. we had recently split up for 1 month now where back together, during that one month . he was staying in a motel. I had had a couple of days off before i came back to work. He at that time knowing that i was working didnt say anything to me walked pass me like i wasnt there.. so during that time he was getting rides from these 2 women that work where we work . one of them kept talking about him to me like she was intrested at the time her man was in mexico on vacation. since then her mans back and my husband is saying things like iam not gonna lose and is moping around like some thing happened with them. I asked him to tell me the truth but he says its nothing . when he came back to me he had ate my cat and before he wouldnt do that, theres just to many things that are diffrent then before he left DO YOU GUYS THINK IAM OVER REACTING or not? honest answers please Thanks
2007-01-15 10:04:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The bad thing about it is like i dont think her man knows either!
2007-01-15 10:12:43 · update #1
weve tried to talk but i think hes not being honest with me
2007-01-15 10:14:57 · update #2
think he had an affair with the woman, and slept with her, and may have picked up on some of the things they did when they were having sex. he mopes around because he wanted to continue being with this woman, and her hubby returned and the affair was over with. he won't tell u he cheated on u, your all he has right now, if he were honest u might leave him too. he is saying he is going to win, meaning he is thinking of pursuing her in spite of her being married and her husband is back. your not over reacting, he cheated, u can tell by listening to what he is saying. he is clearly upset that the husband is now back, and doesn't want to loose this woman, so he will be pursuing her.
2007-01-15 10:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, that is a completely foreign experience for me
especially that cat eating thing
maybe he is just a sicko or something
I think when somebody is not saying whatever it is you want to know. Look into their eyes, be silent, ask that way, then they have to at least answer themselves, keep asking silently, once an hour if necessary, maybe then they tell you or go to a psych hospital, or maybe a friend would tell you. I always pay VERY close attention to WHO tells me WHAT and WHEN. These are the people i pay for info next time or help and trust more in the future. The ones who just keep secrets are on their own.
2007-01-15 10:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to decide what you truly want. Is it that you are
looking for a reason to split again. After all if something did
happen you and obviously he decided it better you were not
together for some reason. If you cannot get past what could
of happen then maybe you should A)seek help from a counselor
B)Get out because usually this will stay with you for a long time
and if you stay and he still insists nothing happen it will always re-
main in your mind. C) change jobs get away from her and any
other things that haunt you there about this whole mishap.
2007-01-15 10:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is trying to make you jealous without crossing the line and just making things look kinda funny. I don't see any overtly suspicious behavior here. If anything, what you may choose to raise an eyebrow at looks a bit too obvious. I'm an optomist, however and I like to believe that true love will win out in the end.
2007-01-15 10:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two separated. What he did while separated is his business, just as what you did is your business. Now, you are back together. Why not just work on your marriage, and forget about things that may or may not have occurred while you weren't together? Acting as though he's done something wrong will just make roadblocks, where none are needed. Decide if you prefer making your marriage work, or trying to act like the "wronged woman". Either forget about it, or just forget about the marriage.
2007-01-15 10:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems the break in your relationship was a guilt free way for your husband to have sex with other people by justifiing you were on a break.
in that month it should have been a time to reavaluation your relationship not time to jump into bed with someone else.
I think you need to talk to him about this and if he doesnt want to address it you know where your relationship stands.
I know people who have had a break and not seen anyone else cause they do love there partner its just for basically head clearing.
good luck !
2007-01-15 10:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you probably know the answer already. Sounds like he learned some new moves. Seriously, sit down and talk to him about this. Let him know that in order to go forward with your relationship you need to know what really happen. If you can take the answer then GET TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING ASAP!!!!!
2007-01-15 10:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Loves Ladybugs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he didn't do anything with her, and he really had missed you. You may be overreacting, maybe not.
If you want the truth, you need to sit down and talk with your husband. Not yelling because neither one of you will listen to each other when your yelling.
I also suggest that you both go to marriage counceling. It would help.
2007-01-15 10:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is most definently something going on. I would not trust him. I have had almost the same thing happen to me and I believed him... Girl, men if they can have two women and get away with it ....trust me no matter how much you have gone through he will!! I suggest you leave him before he hurts you.
2007-01-15 11:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he was getting some on the side during that month
2007-01-15 10:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋