What should i do? I mean, i love him and all but im not sure sex is the way out! UGHHH!!!...help!
2007-01-15 09:55:11 · 32 answers · asked by Bethany 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell him "no". If he really cares about you (and not just sex, like most guys your age will) then he will wait until you are ready. If you tell him no and he breaks up with you, don't worry, he didn't care about you in the first place.
2007-01-15 09:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should wait because sex at the age of sixteen is the wrong age and you could get in a lot of trouble if you did. I think that you should wait. If you really love him and he really loves you then you two will wait a long time for each other. Sometimes a girl really loves a guy in a relationship and the guy really loves the girl but thinks that it's time for more than what they have already. Sometimes it's the other way were the girl wants more. And other relationships are only together because one of them wants to have sex. That type of relationship is wrong. If he really loves you then he will wait and he will respect your wishes. If you had sex now at the age of sixteen then you might get in trouble with your parents and his parents if they found out. Then both your parents and his will never trust you guys to be together again. Remember that if he really loves you then that's all that really matters. Not having sex.
2007-01-15 10:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by MaD.HaTTeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. You sound confused and I don't think that you should do anything you are not ready for. Whether or not you love him it all depends on when your mind soul and body are actually ready for something like sex. Just remember sex comes with a lot of responsibility you could get pregnant or an STD anything like that. Make sure you make the decision based on how you feel not the presure. Good luck making your choice.
2007-01-15 10:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. If you're not sure then the answer is no. And what do you mean by "the way out" and "ughhh"? If you want out, tell him so. Never ever feel pressured into doing anything. If it doesn't feel right then it isn't. Do what your gut instincts tell you to do. Sounds as if it isn't anything you want to do so why think twice? Just don't do it! And you know this is coming....you're too young!
2007-01-15 10:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I know what it's like to be put in a tough postion where you want to do the right thing, I have a bit of advise for you ( not that you probably need it and I see you are getting lots of it but.....) if you give in now and the relationship turns sour you will forever pay for the consquences by feeling guilt, but if you stay strong and say no you will find that you get treated with more respect from other guys because you will not be known as someone that is "loose"
when that special someone comes along and you will get married and be undefiled I promise you, you will be glad you waited. I pray you will make the right decision.
from someone who cares and who knows.
2007-01-15 10:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Christina W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you dont want to hear all this ....you wanna get pregnant? do you want 2 get a disease? I know all this stuff just goes in through one ear and comes out the other lol But seriously....if you have to think about it....you're not ready. When you are ready to have sex, you will know, the art of sex is beautiful at the right time and at the right moment. Dont rush to have sex, all it's going to do is mess up with your feelings and everyday stuff, trust me you have your WHOLE life to have sex....I KNOW 4 a FACT that 2 yrs more of waiting is not going to kill you, it definitely didnt kill me. When ever you decide to do it.....do it for you..and not because someone wants you to.
2007-01-15 13:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys just want to have sex. If you are a girl who has RESPECT for herself, you will not let pressure from any guy force you to have sex. Stand up for yourself. Sex is a HUGE deal. There is NO rush to have sex at the young age of 16. If you can't wait til marriage, then at least wait til you are 19 or 20. Let yourself be a kid for a while. Sex is serious. If you are going to do it, get on birth control, and make sure he ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS wears a condom. 1 out of every 3 girls over the age of 16 who are sexually active contract HPV. It's a virus that has NO cure!! Let me repeat....NO CURE!!!! You get genital warts from it for the rest of your life and it burns and itches and looks disgusting!! Moral of the story....wait til marriage to have sex so you know you are only with one person....if you CAN'T wait til marriage, then be RESPONSIBLE. USE CONDOMS and take the pill. Unfortunately condoms can't protect you from HPV, but they can protect you from other diseases like HIV. The only way to really protect yourself from HPV is to limit the number of guys you jump in bed with!!!! READ, LEARN, EDUCATE yourself!!! Sex might be fun, but it can also be DANGEROUS!!!! Don't get pregnant if you cannot handle the responsibility of quitting school, and dedicating the REST of your life to being a MOTHER. Sex is NEVER the right answer to hang onto a guy.....NEVER. Respect yourself.
2007-01-15 10:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by asim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is for adults and if you're not one you should not do it! Educate yourself more about the topic, there are books to read and the net to search. If your boyfriend insist about it, even though you don't want to do it, well his not worth it. Remember there are a lot consequences to SEX, among pregnancy there are STD's. Look into it and make the right choice! Protection is the answer to your question! Be careful! ;0)
2007-01-15 10:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Nena S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then don't have sex with him. Don't feel forced into it if that is not what you want. If he has a problem with you not wanting to then you shouldn't be with him anyways. Just remember if you do choose to have sex with him then make sure you get on birth control or he wear a rubber. You always need to be protected. I don't want to see you back here on yahoo asking about pregnancy because you chose not to use protection.
2007-01-15 10:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready and it doesn't seem right.... stay strong and don't. Trust me, if he loves you he WON"T make you!!!! If he's worth it he'll wait. I know this is very hard to go through... but, you MUST stay strong!!! If you think you are ready talk to someone you trust (an adult probably- like a health teacher or counselor) to find a way to stay SAFE!
Good luck, it's a tough decision - I know- but stay strong!!! It doesn't sound like you are really ready!
2007-01-15 10:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Neve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋