im 19 years old recently ive been having unwanted homosexual thoughts but i still love women i think i hve ocd

Question

i just woke up and my mind said you are gay but i love women not men but i get unwanted homosexual thoughts and its been 2 months plus i have unwanted thoughts about people that are around me at night i have dreams about women not men i got a thought in my head telling me im gay it wont leave me my life was so perfect untill now i was planning on getting married at the age of 20 i just want these thoughts to leave me alone someone please help thank you

Answer 1

I really sympathise with you but why do u wanna get married so soon?This could be just a phase you are going through and take your time to find out what is best for you.Sit back and try to think why exactly you are having these thoughts ,what triggered them ?
Have you had a change of lifestyle recently ?Look deep within yourself and hopefully the answer will come to you , from what you are saying , I think you are as straight as they come and dont let this worry you too much .Ofcourse if it continues then speak to someone who can help in a professional capacity or if you are a believer pray about it.

Answer 2

Some of this may be due to stress at work or school or with other family members. I don't think that homosexuality is linked with OCD, but then again that is not my speciality.
Were you brought up in a strict religious house, or where homosexuality was talked down on every time it was brought up? Maybe deep down inside of yourself, you are really gay, but have repressed your gay feelings because your family has always said that homosexuals were the lowest form of life next to Satan himself. This type of repression of your true feelings can be quite harmful.
I would see a doctor (psychologist) about this or at least a social worker. Most of these people are neutral or at least act like they are neutral. IF you go to a priest or some other person of your religion, you will hear that homosexuality is a sin and you need to get these thoughts out of your head.
Are you currently in a relationship? Are there any problems in your relationship? This might also be your inner mind trying to tell you that you are not ready to get married, yet, and you should wait to get married until you are very sure that this is the right person.
Don't stress out on this problem. Calm down and talk to somebody you trust preferable a doctor.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, a lot of people don't know this, but this is a symptom of OCD. Do you have any other symptoms that you know of? See OCD is different than most disorders. Like with bipolar, schizophrenia, ect., you can't tell whether you have it, but with OCD, you just KNOW whether or not you have it. If you think you have OCD, chances are that you do. In OCD homosexual thoughts are not like if you were actually homosexual. There more like... you know your not gay, you would never consider being gay, but yet these homsexual thoughts won't stop haunting you. To the point where you start questioning, "Am I gay", even though it makes you sick to your stomache to think you might be gay. It's like your mind is trying to force you to be gay, but you don't want to be gay! It is not appealing to you at all! It's distressing! Here is a website you can check out that lists all the common symptoms and the ones most people never even knew were OCD: http://understanding_ocd.tripod.com/ocd_symptoms.html

Answer 4

I feel sorry for that kid. She doesn't have a childhood, and you know she's going to have a lot of issues by the time she reaches adulthood. I seriously doubt her mother will be around to see her graduate. "It makes people happy, and I'm not harming anyone," she says. Look your four year old daughter in the eye and tell her that. Tell her that she is living in a sound home environment that is healthy for a developing child. If you can do that, then you seriously need help. Yes, you're hurting someone. You're hurting the child you gave birth to who 'set you apart' from all the other freaks on the internet. When it takes 30 medical professionals for you to give birth, that's nature and God saying that you shouldn't breed.

Answer 5

Are you under any kind of stress or anxiety at the moment like pressures in college/work or from friends/family? Are you having difficulties meeting girls or are you shy around them - if so, maybe this is just a lack of self-confidence. Voices in the head can also indicate illness (not necessarily OCD) so do try and talk to someone you trust, or a doctor.

In the meantime be calm and try and mix with male friends and make friends with girls too and don't pressure yourself by feeling a need or a desire to marry at 20. In time you'll discover your true self and you'll know who you want to be with.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I don't really get the connection between the gay thing and the OCD thing. I don't think they're related. It's totally normal to think about the same sex and not be gay. If it's something you fantasize about but know you'd never act on it, it's just that...a fantasy. If you think maybe you could act on it, that still doesn't mean you're gay. If you're attracted to women as well, that makes a person bisexual. A person who has sexual and generally emotional feelings for both sexes. But if you feel that you like women only because you're being told that's what's expected of you and really you're more interested in males, you could be gay. Any of these options are OK despite what anyone tells you. We're born the way we are. If someone is gay or bisexual it's not because he or she is sick or something happened to them in their life that made them that way. It's just who a person is.

But for you, if they're just thoughts, it sounds like you're still straight with gay fantasies. Lots of guys have them, so don't worry.

Answer 7

I am 18, and I think 20 is too young to marry, ex-specially when you are unsure of your own sexuality. Take some time to yourself to think about things, and if you do become aware that you are gay, please do not get married to try and be straight, it would just be cruel to your wife. You may be bi-sexual, some straight men also have homo-erotic fantasies, but if you begin to feel more and more strongly that you are inclined toward guys, there are places (Even On line) For younger people like us, who question sexuality, also try PFLAG. (see if their is a local chapter in your neighborhood., and good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 8

maybe you are bi-sexual. its not a problem. just concentrate on your heterosexual thoughts. it really isnt a big deal. i bet its all your hormones, in your teen years you start to feel things that maybe you havent felt before. it doesnt mean you are gay. if you arent even 20 yet then its possible the feeling will pass. many teenagers experiment with gay situations, but end up realising they were het to begin with. just relax and enjoy your youth. these feelings really arent something you should worry about- especially if you still have dreams about girls. also theres the possiblility that its all in your mind. subconsciously you dont want to be gay and your fear is being projected making you think you are gay. like i said its not the worst feeling and i bet eventually it will pass. good luck xx

Answer 9

in truth when people are completely honest everyone has them its a small part of life just acknowledge them if you want to act on them whatever sexuality is a choice

but suppressing it can lead to problems your NOT gay unless you chose to be it could just be cursory homosexual contact is not uncommon at all aether its just life
i actully choose not t belive in sexuality im not hetrosexual or homosesual just sexual

marriage so young?

for more info check out www.sex-project.com

its nothing seedy just a resource site with tips and information
its not actually about homosexuality just sexuality and sex in general.has great staistics

p.s please igneoir bible joe up there spirts have no interest in your sexuality and i doubt its a sin anyway why else would the prostate gland be back there(its like the male g spot apparently)

Answer 10

You probably need to talk to someone professionally. You are at a stage in your life where you are entering adulthood and that can be pretty scary. It is often filled with uncertainty. Add to that the constant bombardment from the media with emphasis on sexuality, and it can be downright confusing. Counseling would help you a lot. Good luck.