I was in a TERRIBLE relationship with my ex and even if he were to ask me back to this day it may be hard to say NO but I would 100%. He was my first love and its been about a year..But I am also in another relationship and I care this guys ALOT...How am I supposed to get the asshole out of my mind and move on with the new guy?
I feel like jealousy is so much stronger than love...Maybe this is what love is supposed to feel like and maybe I was just jealous of my last bf....Any suggestions?
2007-01-15 09:30:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really DONT want to break up with my new guy!
2007-01-15 09:36:35 · update #1
Rule of thumb: the best way to get over one is to start dating another. It's hard, and at first you'll compare every one to the one you love, but eventually you'll remember all the flaws from the ex and find someone who really cares about you.
Best advice: do things you like to do (hobbies) so when you find a guy, you'll have a hobby in common already. Don't fake liking football or basketball--guys can see through it.
2007-01-15 09:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughie. It's hard to say what is making your feelings for your first boyfriend persist even though you've been broken up for so long. I mean, you care about him, but after that long your feelings usually wouldn't be so strong. Perhaps you need the help of a counselor/psychologist on this one. Especially because your feelings for the old bf might really affect the current relationship, and your new bf might not be cool with that.
2007-01-15 09:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating for another 6-8 months, get therapy if you need to, get some hobbies, build an interesting life for yourself and THEN see how you feel. If you're still hung up on a terrible relationship from the past, you're not healthy enough for a new one.
2007-01-15 09:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're saying you have been in a poor relationship which includes your ex. Love isn't think to fell poor, it might make you happy. provide this new relationship of challenge to work out if that's going to truly paintings. If it does not paintings out then attempt it by your self for some months. yet while your ex made you experience undesirable and it wasn't a reliable relationship then you definitely shouldn't bypass returned to it. you could circulate on which includes your existence, that's going to possibly not look like it now yet finally the discomfort will ease. tell your self you deserve greater advantageous and handle your self with the honour you deserve, as quickly as you do sturdy come issues will come your way and the relationship you deserve and choose will come your way.
2016-10-20 06:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by merkel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart, you have what is known in some circles as a soul tie
and love has nothing to do with that , you should always tie your loose ends before starting a new relationship so that you will not create drama for the next person.
2007-01-15 10:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make two lists, one what was wrong with the last guy and the other, what is good about this guy. make sure that you really care about this second guy and that it is not just that he is different. Dont be in a hurry to get into a serious relationship until you are sure that it is not just moving from one guy to another.
2007-01-15 09:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All love is true, or it isn't really love...and yes love can end...if you choose to hang on to it however, you can hang on as long as you desire and so for you, it might never end.
You have to choose to get closure and move on. You don't have any business being with someone how, while you still have feelings for someone else. How would you feel if you knew your guy was still carrying a torch for his ex? Not too kewl , huh?
2007-01-15 09:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think once you love someone that much you always will love them. But sometimes love just isn't enough. I hope things work out for you and this new guy.
2007-01-15 09:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have completeness in your mate and lose it...it is most difficult to overcome. The answer is too allow time to understand what has happened, but in any event, God will not let you suffer, but only for alittle while.
2007-01-15 09:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAke some time out of both relationships. Take some time to re evaluate your life.
2007-01-15 09:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by chickidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋