I am 14 years old,i just got my first real boyfriend 4 months ago and we were out on a date last night and he tried to french kiss me,i freaked out and pulled away and he got mad and wont even talk to me anymore,do i kiss him even though im not really ready so he wont be mad at me?
2007-01-15 09:17:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
French women are beautiful. Ottoman padisahs were aware of this fact. And each kept 40 of them in their harems to practice French kiss every now and then...They didnt buy them from france. The french kings were sending them to Ottoman emperors in fear of being attacked by the janissaries.... This is history...
2007-01-18 20:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if it makes you uncomfortable and you feel you're not ready. If he's pushing you into it then he's a jerk. (On the other hand remember he's just a kid too so your response may have freaked him out a little).
And ultimately remember, if you lose this guy (for whatever reason) there will be lots more boys to date and many more kisses ahead of you.
(Personally I wouldn't have my first french kiss just to keep a guy from being angry with me)
2007-01-15 09:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT listen to wolfordbg!!!!!!!!!! HE IS WRONG BEYOND COMPREHENSSION!!!! never ever in ur life should u feel like u have to do something that u don't want to. my boyfriend tried to kiss me about a month ago and i really wasn't ready for it and i knew that i wouldn't even enjoy it if i did it then....so i told him and he smiled and gave me a really big hug and told me it was okay. i could tell that he was dissapointed but ur bf has to respect u for ur descisions, girl!! besides, i just had my first kiss last week with my bf and i was ready this time and i wanted to and it was amazing. i didn't feel pressured at all. if he can't wait for u then he doesn't deserve u. guys who go after the physical stuff are all a**holes. ditch that jerk and find someone better who wants u for YOU!!!! :) good luck!!
2007-01-15 09:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by jgmice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 french kissing can lead to many thing including pregnancy. I'm glad that you freaked out. Now, he is mad and and most probably find another girlfriend but you're saved from making a big mistake.
2007-01-15 09:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. If you are not ready for kissing (of any kind), you shouldn't do it. Good for you for stopping when you weren't ready. If he doesn't respect your feelings about this, he isn't worth your time. Wait for the guy who wants to be with you and is worried more about you than his own needs. He is out there somewhere and you will find him.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 09:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you learned a very good lesson at a very young age, "all men are bastards!", to some degree or another. Can you imagine someone really caring for you, your needs, your heart if he gets mad at something like you being taken back by him sticking his tongue in your mouth. He sounds like a young bastard-man who only wants what he wants. Be very cautious because there are a lot of his type out there, I used to be one before I learned how to really love and care for someone.
Try imagining what kind of guy you would really hope to meet someday, what would he look like, how would he treat you, etc., then believe for him to cross your path someday. Don't just jump at the first tongue-sticking kid who acts like he likes you just to get what he wants. Rest assured sticking his tongue won't be the last of his demands.
You learned a good lesson so now be smarter! Peace!
2007-01-15 09:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Blood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy answer. Do not do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Having said that, maybe the reason you do not feel like you are ready is because you do not like this guy. If I were him that is what I would think.
You may not believe that, but if you do not have any "special" feelings on the inside for this guy, then maybe he is not the one as well as you not being ready.
Think about it.
Good Luck.
2007-01-15 09:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by John B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it if your not ready too. If he is mad at you then that's immature and he's obviously not the right boy for you. Part of being a good boyfriend is respecting your partner and when they're not ready for something you are waiting until they are ready.
2007-01-15 09:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ... the best thing youcan do is hold out. He'll be out of the picture soon anyways ... save your first REAL kiss for when you're ready ... it's much better that way anyways! Trust me!!! And he's a jerk off anyways if he can't understand that you're taking your time. You're too wonderful to settle for that ... tell that loser to BEAT IT!!!
2007-01-15 09:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why french kissing?
I don't think you should kiss him so you could be with him again.
I think you should find someone else because if someone doesn't like you beacuse you're not ready to kiss is dumb.
2007-01-15 09:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋