we've been together for 5 years. we just had a baby 4 months ago. we've been doing alot of fighting lately. we love each other very much and we want to be happy with each other. i know this sounds corny, but our flame is burning out. lol. know what i mean? what can we do?
2007-01-15 09:10:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it more then like just the stress of having the baby, (i have 2 kids so experience)
just make a jesture even a small one to let him know you care, and visa versa.
U could spend a fortune on going out but thats a once off thing, make a nice dinner and have the baby asleep to enjoy each others company or go on a pinic just have us time. U can get a babysitter if you wanted but my husband and i did these things with them there cause you want the passon every day. So once they go to bed or have a nap devote time to each other.
You can do something as simple as writing them a card to express how much you love him. the simplist idea is the best because they seem so sweet! good luck
2007-01-15 09:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by aime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you have to want it to work, but that isn't enough. It's easy to get caught up with the day-to-day living, especially with a new baby. The dynamic changes, as do the priorities. Yes, the baby is the most important thing, but not the only important thing. Make one another a priority and make sure you both know the other is a priority. Your time together will be less and occur less frequently, but that can be made up by quality.
2007-01-15 09:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 13 years and have 2 children. Your relationship is experiencing something drastically new, plus the additional work that it takes to take care of a 4 month old can add up.
What worked for my wife and me is to plan a date night, you do not have to go out to do this. You can dress up, burn candles and have a romantic evening at home. But you have one day a week that you plan to do something new and exciting. Have fun!
2007-01-15 09:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Denny Crane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! See if you can find a sitter for the baby for a couple of hours. Take this time to talk to "spend" with your mate and let him know what you are feeling. What you are experiencing is typical for a couple who just had a baby. Communicating with each other is key. I hope this helps. Good luck girl!!!!
2007-01-15 09:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a Baby changes things,try spending time alone with out the baby like plan a date night once a week or book a room,that's if you have some one reliable to look after your baby.good Luck
2007-01-15 09:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nicky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is had especially at the beginning!!! what i would recommend is do things you guys used to do when you guys were going out when you first go together!!!!talk about stuff that is bothering each other and see what you guys can improve!!!!!Go on a second honey Mon it is all about communication and spending time together!!!!
2007-01-15 09:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by little chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to the beginning,start over.Do some of the same things you did when you first met.Like a date,make love in the car things like this.That baby needs both of you together,work on it.
2007-01-15 09:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by cactusjoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever crossed your mind that those awkward silences are just as much your fault as theirs? Or that the one common thread behind this recurring problem is *you*? That said, get yourself a copy of the 1000 question purity test, and ask the next question as a way to start a conversation (have you, would you, why or why not) every time there is a silence.
2016-05-24 08:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date each other once in a while without the little one.... Spend quality time together and still hold hands and do romantic and fun things together.... You may also need counseling and help for this... http://www.marriagetoday.org
2007-01-15 09:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP FIGHTING! Talk to each as you would want to be talked to, do you like to be screamed at? If no, then don't scream, say words that are going to lift each other.
2007-01-15 09:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋