Me and my friend were going to 'cheat' together (not on anything important) and i did my part and helped her, but then i discovered she had got me into trouble. So now I am in trouble, and she is better off than she was b4. This isnt the first time this has happened, but the times b4 werent very big. We have been bff since we were 5 years old so I dont want to just finally say I am fed up with her and dont want to be friends. I just want a solution to fix the basically unfixable. Technically what my question is, is... What should I do with her? What should I say to her? I have tried telling her why I am angry but she made up an exuse and blamed me getting into trouble on someone else. Help!!
2007-01-15 09:03:23 · 19 answers · asked by Taylor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well i know how it is to have a bestfriend decieve you like that and believe it or not it really hurts. The best thing to do is learn from your mistakes. Let it go put it in the past and leave it alone its just that simple. Learn next time dont let her talk you into cheating again but still remain her friend. i hope everything works out for the best.
2007-01-15 09:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now..Did u ever think that if you weren't cheating to begin with none of this would of happen?You two would still be friends.I think maybe someone is trying to tell u something.Like not to cheat because it's not worth loseing a friend over.Plus cheating gets u nowhere in life.Just a easy way out but in the long run u will pay for it .As u get older u will find out in life that nothing comes easy thats worth it.
2007-01-15 17:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that was like that and i had to tell her that if she doesnt stop then we should not be friends. She didnt want to stop blaming me for her mistakes, getting me in trouble for something she did,and using me in other ways. I told her that we couldnt be friends anymore and then later on she regretted what she did.
I think that you and her need a break for awhile or you should not be her friend anymore. She is not a good friend and you deserve a friend that isnt going to treat you bad. you sound like a nice person and deserve better friends. I know that you guys have been friends for a long time, but if she doesnt want to stop doing what she is doing then you should drop her
2007-01-15 17:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by bee bee boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her what she did was wrong. And ask how she would feel if you did the same. If she shows no remorse drop her as a friend - you need to move on. If she is sorry tell her that if this happens again (remind her of all the other times too) you will no longer be her friend since she isn't acting like one.
2007-01-15 17:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by bluckies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, realize that while she is your friend, for one reason or another, she can't be relied upon. BTW, she really doesn't "fit" as a true friend because true friends can be relied upon. If you can, try just being an acquaintance and be friendly without depending on her for anything. Say, "You have hurt me very deeply and what you did was wrong and you know that it was wrong."
You're right, you can't fix the unfixable.
2007-01-15 17:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay don't worry i had a friend just like that i new her since i was 3 and a half! her name is Heidi. she always used to do this to me and bother me AND ANNOY ME. once i told her i liked this boy from camp and then the next day, she went and told this boy Joseph that i liked him. i never did! he didn't even go to my camp. i was so mad at her. the whole world found out. i told her at first that i didn't want to be her friend. she was soo sad. after a while i thought that i know i made the right choice because if i was her friend, she might have gone told another one of my secrets away. I'm still not her friend to this day and i am happy. my point is that it is your choice but remember to make a good choice. is she really a good friend or not?
2007-01-15 17:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by zac efron lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting yourself be walked on like a used rug. If I were you, I would question just how much a true friend this person is. Maybe you need to redefine your friendship with her and what it means to you. Whatever you do, don't allow her to manipulate you again like this. If it continues to happen, shame on you.
2007-01-15 17:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't put yourself in a predicament where you will get set up. from now on if she wants to do something like "cheat" let her do and tell her "go ahead, but i'm out" but with friends like this who needs enemies. sometimes people grow and change into someone else. that's when you have to move on. don't let her drag you down anymore. good luck.
2007-01-15 17:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never hang on to friends that don't give a hoot about what happens to you. If she were actually a real friend, she wouldn't have gotten you in trouble numerous times and left you hanging.
2007-01-15 17:25:24 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzie475 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youwrong twice, no cheating and drop her and find a friend that does not tell you not to cheat in the first place!
2007-01-15 17:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋