my husband and i have been married 3 mons and dating for 5yrs.he has been divorced for 6yrs from his 1st wife but still listed in the phone book with her as her husband.also if i look up any sites on line(anywho,yahoo people seach ect)he is still listed with her at their old address(where she still lives).my husband is not bothered by this at all.i have asked him to have his exwife fix this(as he told me only she can)and he always says whats the big deal everyone knows where i live.after 3 yrs of us arguing over this he said he asked her to fix it.well its still not fixed.now heres where it gets even weirder he is dead set against about being in the phone book with me.he has come up with 100 reasons but none of them make any sence.so tell me why could he care less about being listed on the internet,phonebook with his exwife but makes a fit when i want to list us together?i know its not that he still loves her as he left her and he may just be scaried to ask her as she is very nasty
2007-01-15 08:57:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this still does not explian why he does not want to be listed with me.and yes his exwife knows were are married,where we live and has our phone number so its not that.
2007-01-15 08:59:20 · update #1
Well to start they were together 4 years she has a rite to keep his name even after the divorce the phone situation maybe she just doesn't want to let go its really not a big deal your with him now not her and i think i understand why he doesn't want to be listed at one time i could have cared less about being in the phone book now i told my wife do not list me i don't want too be in that book if she wants to be listed that's fine but leave my name out no reason i just don't want to be in the phone book and i hate to say it but i feel a little jealousy don't sweat the small things in life you will have bigger things to argue about later in life love your husband and let it go ......Chris
2007-01-15 09:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by cmann70726 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband the kind of man who takes the path of least resistance? Does he mention things that are bothering him, or does he hold it all inside and/or withdraw from even small conflicts with you or others? If he is the kind of man who "rides the wave" instead of making hands-on changes in his life, then his decision not to confront his ex-wife OR be listed with you just means he doesn't see any reason to disrupt his life as it currently exists. I would suggest that you try not to take it too personally. After a while, it won't matter. What DOES matter is how he treats you and if he makes you feel loved and supported in other ways. The phonebook thing is just an errand.
2016-05-24 08:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to remove his name. It's his name! I on the other hand would just forget about it. He lives with you and is married to you and everything. The only way you and I both know you will have piece of mine is if it is not listed. I am sorry you are in this situation but I am sure you are making it worse than it really is........
together 13 / married 6
2007-01-15 09:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just go ahead and list you two together in the phone book? Seriously? Why don't you? This isn't even something I would THINK to even ask his permission of, I'd just do it. And as far as the ex goes...yea its a little strange and chances are she only does it because she knows it gets under your skin.... OR, too, it could be a safety issue or maybe she never ever told her great aunt Emma they divorced...you never know. If I were you I'd just add him in to y'all listing and forget about hers....it really doesn't affect your quality of life.
2007-01-15 09:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly sounds strange to me...have you sat down with him ..in total seriosness and stated that your not leaving this issue until resolved...explain how strange this is.....tell him that you feel he is trying to disassociate your existance from you and this leaves you both hurt and confused.....
Don't leave the table till he resolves your questions!!! MARRIED MAN OF 28 YEARS......Happily and also confused for you?....good luck
2007-01-15 09:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by yahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK WAIT YOUR MARRIED TO HIM AND YOUR WORRY HIS NAME STILL APPEARS IN WITH HIS EX....YOUR WITH HIM, THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO FIGHT ABOUT THAN TO ARGUE ABOUT SOMETHING AS DUMB AS THIS.
I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 27 YRS AND I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO ARGUE THAN TO ARGUE ABOUT HAVING HIS NAME IN A PHONE BOOK ... AND YES MY HUSBAND HAS A EX BUT AM THE ONE HAVING ALL THE FUN NOW AND NOT HER AND AM THE ONE TAKING CARE OF EVERY NEED HE HAS AND BELIEVE ME LIFE IS TO SHORT TO WAIST MY TIME IN LITTLE THINGS.
BE HAPPY ....
2007-01-15 09:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a phone book. Who cares...
2007-01-15 09:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that is really weird!!!! i def. think she doesnt want to let him go. i think he should stand up to her and ask her why the heck she's being like that. and as far as him not wanting his name by yours that is realy freakin bazar. i almost find that offensive and rude. good luck
2007-01-15 15:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by blonde_brownie526 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care so much? He lives with you, sleeps with you, is married to you... how much more validation do you need?
2007-01-15 09:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by ksmpmjoll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I said in your other question,
Tell him to remove his name from his ex's stuff.
2007-01-15 09:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋