i have been sexually active for about 3 years now but have never orgasmed. it never really feels good at all. it sort of builds up this really fustrated feeling and i get so fustrated that i have to stop because it is so bad. as you can imagine this is starting to come between me and my boyfriend. its not him either. he has made other girls orgasm i know he knows what he is doing. lately it hurts quite a bit. i feel like i am perhaps swollen inside? can anyone help as to what this could be?
2007-01-15 08:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by brandy p 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First of all, if you're relying upon vaginal intercourse by itself to achieve orgasm, you're probably going to continue to be frustrated and disappointed. The vast majority of women cannot have an orgasm through traditional sex alone.
What I would recommend that you do is learn to masturbate and once you've learned how to do it so you have an orgasm fairly frequently, then you can show your BF how to masturbate you.
Then once you've got this down, what you can do is have him masturbate you to at least one orgasm BEFORE having intercourse, and you'll feel SOOOO much better about sex and yourself and the whole thing. Trust me.....
Also, learn how to perform oral sex on each other. There's an entire world of pleasure just waiting for you.....
2007-01-15 09:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women don't actually orgasm while having sexual intercourse. You may want to try some different positions while having sex, this could help you find your g spot better, and make you orgasm. Also, have your boyfriend, or you, rub your clit during sex, it helps stimulate. Also, oral sex should definitly make you orgasm :) Lubes may help the situation too. I don't know why you are in pain, maybe you should see a doctor about this problem. Goodluck. :)
2007-01-15 09:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by kasey06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to touch yourself during love making. Practice during your alone time to find out what gets you over the top then use it in your love making. Try prolonged foreplay.
2007-01-15 09:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should explore your own body...take a nice bath ..get relaxed and start touching yourself..when you find that special spot then you will know what to do to make yourself orgasm...try getting a vibrator or a sex toy called the beaver...my wife uses it and she cums with it every time
2007-01-15 10:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by mergy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreeing with the person who recommended oral. It is the only way that my wife can climax. When you both pay close attention to your clit, things happen the way they should.
2007-01-15 09:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk if you you use condoms or not, but try using liek a Lube that way it wont hurt as bad in the begining if he cant make you wet.. tell him to go slow at first and then he can build up to the speed you both enjoy--and trying differant positions.. yup = AMAZING.. gaurenteed Orgasm
lay on our back wiht your legs up but bent at the knees..and have him lay next to you on his side and so his waist is a little lower then yours- then have him lift your leg (the one closest to you) andd have himslip it in you'll proably have to move around to get more comfy then hwo im explaining it lol.. .. but idk play around wiht positions.
2007-01-15 09:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyPrettyPICKLE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋