We got into a big fight about how he looks at porn and we almost divorced. He told me he wouldn't look at porn anymore. After finding two additional times after that fight, I'm getting pretty fed up. I've always been faithful to him and love him very much, he doesn't try when it comes to our relationship.
2007-01-15 08:42:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel. My husband and I have had the same issues... he spent about $60 to get a membership to a certain site and that was the point that i had had enough. I would tell him that it is really hurting you and that you cant handle it. Porn can also be an addiction, so maybe you should look in to some help there are websites that can help with it. Good luck!
2007-01-15 08:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by GIRL 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You did not tell 'why' is the reason you do not want him to watch porn. Is it a personal conviction or belief? If this is the case, there will be a problem. Men usually watch porn once in a while. Do you want this a basis for your husband that he truly loves you by stopping watching porn movies? If yes, love is not all about this. Or he usually imitate the roles in the porn movies with you and do not like it.
In my case, me and my wife usually watch it together, maybe, about twice a year. Sometimes, it helps us improve our sex life. Its only one part of love.
Whatever reasons you have, tell your husband how you felt without being unreasonable. Or you can try to watch it with him once in a while. Just for you to know how it feels and whats the effects on your relationship.
Wishing you all the best.
2007-01-15 09:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be harsh but, Grow the hell up.
If you are giving him all he wants when he wants then you MIGHT, and that is might, have a complaint. If you are not getting your share then you might, again might, have a complaint.
Apart from that what is the problem?
He is checking out porn because that's what guys do. He is not going to strip joints he is not trolling bars to pick up some strange.
You almost divorced him over this? All I can say is PRUDE.
You are having fights over this OF COURSE HE WILL LIE ABOUT IT. And yet he still does it. It is because guys look at other women.
Trust me here. When his interest in other women is gone so is his interest in you.
It is the way of the male to fertilize multiple partners. For him to stay home and take care of this without involving another warm body is a sign of his fidelity.
If it is not costing you any rack time shut up and grow up.
2007-01-15 09:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With porn widely available and perfectly legal for everyone including married men, chances are that your next man will also like to look at porn once in a while.
I suggest that you try to compromise and work it out with your present husband. Or else you may end up on a wild goose chase looking for a man better than the one you have now.
A man cannot fall in love and run away from his wife with a sexy porn picture. It's not the same as cheating, because there is no relationship. And treating it as if he is cheating you is a misunderstanding on your part that can cost you your marriage and your happiness in life.
2007-01-15 08:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Megan it sounds like it is you who isn't trying. Don't you realize that the man has physical and sexual needs that you are not fulfilling and that it is up to you too keep him interested in you and your relationship. He wouldn't be forced to look at porn if you were providing for his needs. Also, does he gripe at you for buying clothes and shoes, fake nails and having your hair done? You are satisfying your shopping and beauty needs aren't you? So what's wrong with him looking at porn? It could be a lot worse...he could go out and get a mistress and eventually divorce you for someone who does provide for his needs...Points to ponder...Try not to be such a prude.
Good Luck to you.
2007-01-15 08:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my boyfriend...except I told him it was okay to watch porn thinking he didn't watch it. I was wrong.
So I told him I don't like it, that it makes me feel gross and that if he's watching porn he's not getting anything from me. no hug, no kiss, and def. no sex.
The porn watching stopped.
I think of porn as cheating- he's looking at other women and to me that's wrong. I don't look at other guys even dressed so he shouldn't be checking out naked girls.
Ask him why he likes porn and if all else fails maybe try spicing things up with a cute costume, lotions, toys, and new positions.
Honestly you have to keep things going and not the same old same...
if you want some tips email me!
2007-01-15 08:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Confront him with an open mind and even if his porn watching habits offend you, try to watch some with him and see where it takes you. I used to get angry when my boyfriend watched porn, it almost made me feel like I wasn't sexy enough, but you're his wife. No matter how many other naked chicks he sees in his porn, you're the one that he is with, the one that he loves, the one that he sleeps next to every night and shares his life with. When I watched porn with my boyfriend, it actually made us closer since it's such a personal thing and greatly improved our sex life. If you happen to be a Christian or very conservative, then I apologize if I offended you, but sometimes approaching things from an entirely different angle can result in an improvement. Good luck!
2007-01-15 08:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by fastcarceo25 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What is it that you have against him watching porn? Alot of couple's watch porn together. Both of my aunts and uncles and my fiance and I will watch porn together. Look at it like this, if he doesn't watch porn there might be a chance of him cheating on you. Porn isn't really a sexual thing for men. It's more of a forbidden thing, men see it as "We were told not to watch this stuff our whole lives" so men do it as a way of rebelling.
2007-01-15 08:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by nshappe 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you can install a software like NetDog Porn Filter on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.netdogsoft.com
2007-01-15 12:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in divorce but I would suggest marriage council. A marriage is based on good communication and trust. If a marriage has neither one than it's only deceit and secrecy. He needs help before your marriage is ruined. Oh, you could suggest to him-- that the two of you have sex while watching it together and see if you two can do it louder.
2007-01-15 08:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by STARS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋