I have fallen in love with this absolutely wonderful man, he loves me as well, but we can never be together. This is the first time I've ever been in love and it's just so heartbreaking to know that we can never be together. He lives in another country and the age difference (which is not much at all, but still does play a factor) matters because of his culture. He will always be dear and near to my heart, and I know we will continue to remain in contact as friends, but how can I get over this? I'm young, and as I said, this is the first time I've ever been in love, and I'm sure of it. Any advice I would greatly appreciate, thank you dearly. The culture difference is not an enormous factor, but it could play a role. I'm not counting on anything, but I am just seeking advice... Thank you..
Dana
2007-01-15 08:37:33 · 7 answers · asked by Dana 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Thanks belle
2007-01-15 08:54:03 · update #1
Just do your best. Take each day as it comes. You said you are young, but you know what? Love will take its course. Just keep in touch with guy, and who knows, maybe fate will have its way, maybe not.
Does love conquer all? Yes, it always does in its own way. Maybe you won't end up together, but the love you share will always be a part of your frienship, making it that much stronger.
Good luck, and remember no matter how things turn out in the end, you'll be all right, don't worry. As long as you know who you are and what's important to you in life, this is all that truly matters.
If you'd ever like to talk, I'm here. God bless you.
2007-01-15 09:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Dana, I'm sorry for the circumstances that seem to stand in your way. You say that age does play a factor, but, to me, unless you're underage, then it shouldn't. As for cultural differences, only you know if that will get in the way. The biggest problem is the distance between you. If, as you said, you will remain in contact with him, who knows what will happen--you both might find it worth breaking that distance to be together. I'm sorry--I know I'm not being very helpful. All I can tell you is this: not all of us are lucky enough to find true love. If you are one of the fortunate ones, don't let a little thing like distance or culture get in the way. Keep in contact with him, and let nature take it's course. Best of luck to you and him.
2007-01-15 16:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said you are young, and It is the first time to love, you seem to have very much love to this person but, you know, many many
people have very much love in their first experience but it doesn't mean that this experience will succeed, in addition this doesn't mean that it is the right choice
you said that he lives in a different country with different culture
and this is a barrier that is bigger than you may imagine
the romantic Idea that love defeats all difficulties and barriers is not true or realistic
In my country I hear a lot of stories about marriages failed because of the cultural differences which were underestimated in the beginning.
2007-01-15 17:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by mohamed.kapci 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain . . . and if you feel there are issues that prevent you from being with him then there is nothing you can do except to accept those differences. Love can be so confusing that trying to figure out which way to go even with tons of advice is hard. The best thing to do is to get yourself out there to meet new people either at work, gym, volunteering, etc. When your mind is busy with other things it doesn't have time to torture you with your emotions. I am also quite sure that you will meet someone else at these places that will make you want to love again.
2007-01-15 16:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just how old are you, and how far is the gap between the two of you? How did the two of you meet? How much time have the two of you spent together (in person)? You leave too much information out to give a real answer...
2007-01-15 16:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a great site...although some may say it's a bit hippyish. It's got advice forums and all that stuff.
http://www.friendship.com.au/index.html
I hope that helps.
2007-01-15 16:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by laetitia_gaudiumque 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how do you get over him.........by getting up in the morning and putting one foot in front of another........stop talking to him he is not your friend..........live YOUR life
2007-01-15 18:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋