He likes me.... he likes me not?

Question

It's gotten complicated. I have a best friend (male) and we're closest friends as you can get without it being more. I've been thinking about it for a while n i've decided i'd like it to be more than a friendship.
We had a lot of drunken flirting at new year, but nothing happened from it. One minute he's hugging me, is all over me and i think he wants it to be more than a friendship too. Yet, the next minute he's treating me like we're just friends and nothing more and he couldn't care less about me - what do you all reckon - does he like me as more than a friend or not?
I don't know whether to say anything about my feelings or not - i mean, it would put our friendship at risk - and that does mean the world to me.

Answer 1

Guys are so complicated

I think the reason he is being so flirty is because he does like you but backs off afterwards because he is scared. He could be intimidated by the friendship or just unable to put his feelings across to you but one thing is certain- if you make a mistake about this then your friendship could be effectively ruined.

Try making subtle passes and hints at him to see if he responds but in a non-obvious way. If he backs down and appears tense, chances are he likes you but doesn't want to put what sounds like a great friendship on the rocks. If he responds in a flirty way, take a moment and see if you like it. If so, start "the talk". Be open, honest and don't seem like you are holding anything back- if you are going to tell the truth you might aswell tell it all.

Chances are if you are this close then he will have twigged somewhere along the line that your friendship is changing.

Good Luck and be truthful- it always works
xx

Answer 2

I know this.... I got the same problem u got, I've been his best friend since I was in 4th grade but now It's turning into something else though he got a girlfriend but I know that sometimes he just dosen't act like we're friends... If u don't feel so so in love with this guy then there's no need to destroy ur friendship. and that's what I did and still doing. plus..it's human nature to feel turned on to the other sex sometimes even if ur best friends..so my advice to u : don't say anything about it until he dose (and make sure he's not DRUNK!!) then if he said anything about it then it's ur call to do whatever u think is right.. :)

Answer 3

Just leave things as they are and see what happens. What will be will be! He may be thinking the same thing as you but no point whatsoever in rushing anything at all. If I were you, I'd tell him that there was a film I really wanted to see (or band or whatever) and would he fancy going along too... This way you will see if he wants to take things further... Good luck! Yours is not such a bad problem to have when you think about it..........

Answer 4

people always say that males and females can just be friends, but I do not think that this can happen... USUALLY it ends in more. My best friend was male, and we one evening had a chat and both realised that we felt the same way about each other.. we have been together for 3 years now! have a chat with him if you think he may possibly feel the same, i think it will be worth it! guys do not usually like to let on that they like someone unless they are sure the other person feels the same I find. Good luck xxx

Answer 5

okay well heres what i think......if he dose like i am not sure but it kinda sounds like me and my guy friend .....he might like you but he is also afriad of srewing up the friendship between you to i mean me and my x-boyfriend were together for 1 1/2 years i mean look at us were still best friends after all this time we just lost intrest in each other i mean once you tell him give him some room and let him think
maybe he will tell you he likes you to or maybe he will say srry i dont fell the same way and all he would need afater telling him is a lil time
guys always get over stuff mos the time they forget so tell him and give him time okay he will come around i promise.

Answer 6

Babes, I'm in the same boat as you. I'm in love with my best guy friend right now but after lots of thought it's just not the risk of the relationship. I can still love him from a distance and enjoy our time together. I suggest you do the same.

(yeah he also sends me mix signals but that's just a sign he's comfortable with you but mebe recongizes that ur of da opposite sex).

Enjoy the friendship, you'll get over him (in that way).

Answer 7

You have to put your feelings on the table and let him know that you don't want to mess up the friendship but your feelings are more than that. It may be he feels the same way and doesn't want to scare you off, so just talk to him and see what he has to say.

Answer 8

This exact thing happened to me.
I finally got the guts to tell him how i felt.
But before I got it out, he told me how he felt about me.

I think he is just shy, like me and my friend were.
Eventually, someone has to let each other know how you feel about each other.
I think you should tell him.
And if he doesn't feel the same way torwards you,
and he ignores you and doesnt treat you the same,
then maybe he isnt worth being friends with.

Answer 9

i think he has mixed felings and does not know how you feel so he does not want to push the friendship as it probably means alot to him. i saqy tell him how you feel and ask if he ha sthe same feelings then discuss what your going to do about it!

good luck hunni hope it all works out xx

Answer 10

Don't do it. I got involved with a really good friend and that ended terribly. She got emotional and then started claiming that I was the reason her realtionship with the last guy kept not working and that it was my subconcious male nature to try and split them up. That and the friend thing and on and on and on..

Don't do it.