How would any women who are in abusive relationships react to the following?

Question

This has happened on more than one occassion but, Lets just say that your husband/boyfriend was beating you up and I stepped in and pounded the crap out of him. Would you be screaming what I typically hear when this happens, "Don't hurt him!!! Don't hurt him!!!!" Or, would you just let me beat him up?? Would you thank me? I am just really curious on why most women that this has happened to in my presence when I step in they typically don't want me to hurt their husband/boyfriend. How would you react???

As far as the women who are saying, it will only make him mad and he will take it out on you later: This is what has happened in the 3 most recent times this has happened with me. Carwash-guy was beating his wife bad while they sat in the car, i walk over and tap on the window, guy tells me to f-off. I punch through the window drag him through the broken glass and pound his head like a watermelon. His jaw was broken and his eyesocket was fractured. I told him that I know where he lived and that if I ever just happened to go by and check up on things and he was doing this crap still he would end up dead. Second time- I was coming out of a bowling alley at around 11:30 or so with some friends. I just look over and see a guy punch his wife in the face "hard" she fell on the ground crying. I walk over and put the guy in a headlock and choke him to near unconsciencness. Then I throw him to the ground and punch him "very hard" in the face. I gave that guy the same warning as the

guy above. Third time is a little off topic but still abuse. I was in my friends car stereo shop and this guy who was obviously drunk was walking with his oh about 8 year old daughter and she just accidentally knocked something over. He slapped that girl lack she was an adult. My freind went over there and said sir thats not necessary, it was just an accident. He told me freind to mind his own f-ing business. When my friend looked at me I told him to go lock the door so no one else could come in and told my freind to offer to show the girl where the bathroom was. Before the guy could say hey where are you going with my daughter, He caught an elbow to the face. Then I kicked him in the "balls". When he was on the ground I told him that he shouldn't hit girls especially kids. And I just went to town on this guy. Then we called the police and said that he was obviously drunk and had driven here "illegally" and he "fell". Mother came to get the daughter after he was arrested.

in the two instances above were there were grown women involved both were constantly screaming. don't hurt him!!! don't hurt him!!! But, I hurt them so bad that I doubt they would have ever wanted to raise their hand to another female. All you have to do is chop a bully down once.

Answer 1

pound away break a few bones please

Answer 2

Me, I'd be all for it, KICK HIS ***! In fact.. I'd even help you out!!! But I'm not abused, nor have I ever been. I'm not sure how the abused victum would think... but from what I understand... it usually has to do with their husbands mentally abusing them to the point they have no confidence, no self worth, and they think their husband is the only person in the world who cares about them. This abuser does this to control/brainwash her.... but either way the victim believes its real, sadly.

The only other reason I can think of would be... that she knows that if you hurt him and make him angry... he's only going to take that out on her, later... when your not there to stop him.

Answer 3

where were you when my exhusband was beating the **** out of me? all i can say is that if a woman is being abused, you cant help her until she is ready to leave him AND has a plan to leave him. it is a lot tougher than most people realize - to leave an abuser. you are beat down psych and phys. most women who are murdered are murdered by s/o or a former s/o - especially pregnant women. the best bet is to talk to the girl - see where she is in her thoughts. i ll bet she could use a friend - eventhough most of the time when you are being abused you tend to hide from people who used to matter. good luck to you and your friend.

Answer 4

I've been in an abusive relationship, and can relate to this. It's because the person has you so brainwashed to believe ever thing is your fault. It isn't that you don't love him, you just want him to stop beating you. You don't want him hurt either, just to stop the abuse. People are scared that that person will do it more.

Answer 5

Most women who are abused (yes I have been there) blame themselves, so if another man tries to intervene and hurt the abuser, the wife can't see the rationalization behind it because they blame themself, not the husband. It is a vicious cycle that is hard to break and if the man doesn't get help, he will keep on abusing, and though you might want to help the woman and protect her, until she helps herself, it is futile.

Answer 6

I would ask you to stop and then call the police to take care of him but yet i would thank you as well for stepping in and trying to protect me from him.... Women who love their abusive men dont want to see them hurt or hurting even though they dont want to be hurt themselves.

Answer 7

i would want you to beat the crap out of him but i think abused women have a different mindset in that maybe they think if you beat him up, he will be her up worse later and maybe blame her for it.

Answer 8

We do that because we don't want our man after saying "Why the f didn't you stick up for me!?", and give them another excuse to beat us up again.

Answer 9

Love is blind and sometimes women tend to forget that abuse doesn't come with love.

Answer 10

I would not get involved in that situation....offer assistance by calling PD

Answer 11

I'd say, kick his a**. And thank you