My husband has done some things to make me loose trust with him. I now constantly find my self snooping through his stuff... he has since changed his password online and it is driving me crazy. How can i get over things in the past and move on with my life?
2007-01-15 08:30:05 · 13 answers · asked by GIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Changing an on-line password hardly sparks trust. If he was being trustworthy his life (and passwords) would be an open book to you.
2007-01-15 08:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Candy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to live walking on egg shells. It's hard to breathe, and he may want to get out. We can't controll everything, and we have to try very very hard to let things go. I think the best way to fix things is for you to stop questioning him, and looking through his stuff, you're driving yourself crazy, and probably for nothing. Whatever happens happens, it's a risk you have to take. I've been there before, on both sides. PS even if you do find the passwords, get into his email, you will always find something to be mad about. As long he's not blatantly going out and cheating, or looking for women on teh internet and all that, as long as the past is in the past, then let it go and move on to making your relationship better. Love as hard as you can, and don't expect it all back. It's the way it works. It takes time to get back to trusting, but driving yourself crazy it's only going to make you miserable.
2007-01-15 17:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it he has cheated? If so, there isn't much you can do because you will NEVER get full trust back with him. I personally would never give a cheater a second chance. The fact that he has changed his password that you once knew, says he is still playing the game. Sounds like a winner NOT!
2007-01-15 16:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be the only one who think like this but hear me anyways. Now a days most people want you to leave you mariage life just because something happen that you didnt like or just bad. honestly I dont think thats the answer to everything and your intentions should be to work toward a unity not separation. COMMUNICATION is the key to any relationship and if you close that door, there are very little you can do to save it. talk to him about your feelings and give hime time to adjust and if he dont, take him to or bring in a mediator to show him how serious you are and if that dont work, ask him how he feels about going to counseling so you can work together to solve some of the issues you have. good luck!
2007-01-15 16:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by monreve_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a different track.
Ask him if you can join him in the activity he enjoys and play with him and not without him.
Sounds like he has been looking for something he's not getting at home. Find out what it is and then place yourself front and center of him and take up all his time with "it" so that he has no need to go else where.
2007-01-15 16:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take time and you will have to go to counseling and possibly even marraige counseling with your husband.... You need to heal and this will take time.... Is he still doing things to make you not trust him or was this done in the past???? You need to forgive and work on your marriage if this is what you really want to do.....
2007-01-15 16:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's he who has to do all the hard work to prove to you he can be trusted.
He's hiding things by the looks of it.
It will be your decision and your alone, if you stay and not trust, or leave and try to learn how to watch for non-trust issues in the future.
2007-01-15 16:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him. Why are you still with him?
If he change his password is obvious that he is hiding somethng from you? Why be with a person you don't trust.
Once is a cheater is always a cheater!
2007-01-15 19:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to regain trust in someone when they break that bond...if he needs to keep things secret then he probably has things to keep hidden from u and it sux and hurts..but if u honestly cant get over what hes done and u feel like hes still sneaky then leave him and try to move on with ur life...
2007-01-15 18:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mary C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my husband cheated on me, there would be no 2nd chance because it doesn't matter what he tried to do, it's hard to gain my trust again...it's like a credit card....if you do not pay and have bad credit, the bank will perhaps decrease your credit limit.
some ppl will try to work it out, depending on your case. i will not.
2007-01-15 16:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by tsf_michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋