Here is the problem: I am such a shy person. I don't have too many interests, and I'm not very witty. I have been with my gf for awhile now, and I don't understand how she puts up with me. I never have much to say, but I love her and her daugher so much. There are times when we just sit there and say nothing. I've asked her about all this, and surprisingly, she says that whenever she thinks about me, she smiles. She says that she doesn't know how I can be with her. She is insecure too. She says that she loves me, but how? She is not the funnest person either, but when she talks to some of her friends, I notice that she smiles and laughs alot. I wish I can make her laugh like her friends do. She seems to have so many stories to tell about her life, but I never have much to say because I've had a bad past. I do sweet things for her such as interact with her daughter (I'm always fun with her daughter), take her out, and take care of her when she's sick. Can we survive?
2007-01-15 08:21:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The most important sentence you wrote is "she says that whenever she thinks about me, she smiles". That is how I feel about my husband, and I love him dearly. We are opposites in many ways, but we are soul mates. The kind and thoughtful things you do are far more important than whether or not you are a chatty guy. She sees you for who you are and loves you for who you are. You will grow together and change over time. Just focus on each other and the relationship. It is ok that she is different with her friends, but you make her smile on the inside. That is all that matters.
2007-01-15 08:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women would say this is the ideal relationship, the woman can talk all she wants and the guy just listens.
Just in case you think I'm being sexist, I'm just kidding about all that.
To be honest, yes I think you can and more than likely will survive. Being a non-talker (or as like to think of it as is a very good listener) good be a very valuable quality.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 08:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You too can survive if you let the past go..to whatever your still holding on to seems to be impacting your current relationship..learn to let go...rid your self of the fears...let your self be loved...open up and you will be the one telling the stories and she will listen because she loves you and she is willing to listen...she knows theres more to you that you've been holding back on... let yourself recieve..
2007-01-15 08:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by RoseOfTheEnvious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds Like you like each other very much. My fiancee and I are polar opposites, and everything about us said we wouldn't make it, but we did. And you can too. Be yourself around each other and be honest with eahc other and you will find that you can overcome any differences. I wish you the best.
2007-01-15 08:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. You seem to write well. When your emotions are running high, and you don't know what to say write it all down. She'll love it, and she'll be able to keep it forever.
2007-01-15 09:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can survive. it sounds like you two are having a great time with eachother, and that you like eachother a lot. don't quesiton why you do, just enjoy it.
2007-01-15 08:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old joke that goes: I haven't spoken to my wife in years. I didn't want to interrupt her.
2007-01-15 09:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm living with one now...be patient.
2007-01-15 08:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by user name 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋