Why do women thesedays?

Question

like to get married but do not like to be married, or like to get children, but dont like to be a mother. Its totally illogical to me its like getting a Ferrari although you dont like going fast or driving in general.

Answer 1

I wonder about the same thing too.. is it a responsibility matter?
Sorry to use your question, but I have the same question.

Answer 2

Ah, to categorize all women by one standard is not appropriate, just as to categorize all men by your questions would be inappropriate.

Society teaches us that marriage is the goal in life. If you do not marry then you have not accomplished something that society deems extremely important. Once married, people may find out that they were not 1. ready for the commitment, 2. would never be ready for the commitment, 3. married for the wrong reasons, 4. married the wrong person, 5. all or some of 1-4.

Some people marry for the "right" reasons and have a wonderful, challenging relationship.

Same goes for having children, often times people have children 1. out of consequences because they didn't use protection, 2. had it drilled into them by social pressures that if you don't have children you will not be fulfilled, 3. had children for the wrong reasons, (which would be having children for any reason other than you knew you always wanted to have children and be a mom/dad.

Not everyone has the natural ability to be a parent. Some need to realize it and seek out parenting classes, others know it before they have children, and need to stay with their instincts and refrain from having children, others knew it's what they wanted more than anything in the world and are the most reliable parents.

Being good or bad as a parent is usually determined by the social environment/standards one lives in.

Answer 3

What you are saying isn't true exactly. What is true is there are two ways that humans mate and have children....the right way and the wrong way. The right way is you meet a woman, get married, stay together and raise the children together to give them every advantage. The wrong way is you screw random chicks and any children that result, you pretty much ignore and abandon. Prior to the modern age, the wrong way resulted in starvation and death. Not many people who practiced this way survived. Today, things are different. Although still in a minority, there are alot of men and women who have behavior geared toward the wrong way. If you pay attention, you can learn to tell normal women apart from these losers. As a man, this is probably the single most important task you have in life. Fail at it and you are pretty much screwed. Ironically, telling these types of women apart can often be done simply by asking them about it. Normal women all want the same thing....a strong man who loves them, will stay with them and raise a family together. When asked, all these women express various versions of wanting that. A woman who expresses something different is telling you something extremely valuable that you better pay attention to.

Answer 4

I could say the same of men. Why do they help make the children but then abandon them? Why do they get married but have girlfriend's?
Not all women (or men for that matter) are like that. When people marry and have children they don't take into consideration that both the relationships (the one between spouses and the one between their children) might be a little bit more work than they expected. At times the work can be near unbearable especially if there are outside influences. Some people either can't or don't want to work at the responsibility of being a spouse/parent.

Answer 5

What you've described is a girl...not a woman. Not that age has anything to do with it...there are a lot of 40+ girls running around. Girls are all about what's exciting, and the whole marriage thing can be very exciting. After a few years go by and the excitement wears off, things can get ugly. On the other hand, a woman knows about things like responsibility and parenting, and accepts the responsibility that comes with getting married and having children. Part of her maturity is being able to appreciate the benifits of such things...unlike girls who can't.

Answer 6

Women like to get married because it is romantic with the wedding planning, the presents, the dress and the attention. After you are married it is hard for some women (and men) to co-mitt to the work and sacrifice it takes to stay married. It is the same thing with getting pregnant, having the baby and raising it.
All of these require sacrifice and commitment

Answer 7

Let the men have children then you will understand. Guess the women got tired of doing all the work while men played and the tables are a turnin.I would rather just have a ferrari myself. I like speed.

Answer 8

who says we do? i love being married, can't wait to be a mother, and think you're the one that's illogical.

ps- i hate weddings, i eloped to avoid one. i love kids though. and my marriage is at least 50/50--if anything i have MORE (material) responsiblity (i have the job, pay the bills, do about 1/3 of the housework & 2/3 of the cooking)

Answer 9

Many women have pressure to get married and have children. They feel if they don't do it something is wrong. Many women who are mothers probably didn't plan on becomming one either. It just happened.

Answer 10

I don't agree that there are too many women like that but what you describe is no different than the person who buys a Ferrari and keeps it parked in the garage. "I have one and you don"t. That's enough for me."

Answer 11

I love being a woman, I loving being married, and having children. I am blessed with my bodies capabilities to do this things. To be my husband every night and carrying his child...

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