Pregnant with deployed hubby, when should he take leave?

Question

I am currently 35 weeks pregnant with my second child(My due date is Feb 18th). My husband is deployed and was set to come home around Feb 11th. I am 2-3 cm dilated....my doctor says I am still "pretty thick" and that my baby isnt very engaged yet. I lost my mucous plug after my exam last Wednesday. I have been having some contractions that are not regular. Considering all that is happening would my hubby be better off coming home more around Feb 1st? He only has 14 days at home. We don't want him to miss the birth! My next doctor's appointment isnt till the 23rd and my doctor told me not to worry unless I have dilated more by then....but I am still paranoid he will miss it! Anyway, what are your opinions?

I had my first at 38 wks. But I was 90% efface and my doctor had stripped my membranes at 37 wks. I was leaking amniotic fluid and had my son after I was pretty much induced...so hard telling how long I would have went if I wouldnt have had my membranes stripped.
As far as waiting till my appointment he has to request his date in the next day or two. So we dont have till the 23rd.
I work retail (only 12 hrs a week) but I should probably go ahead and go on maternity leave huh?

Would a doctor induce before 40 weeks?

Answer 1

First, make sure you relax in these last couple weeks. Nothing's worse for bringing on false labor or whatever than getting yourself too worked up. My husband was set to be on duty for several months around our due date. I got induced when I knew he would be here. Why not call your doc's office and talk to the nurse about that option. That way you don't have to worry, you know when the baby will be here and your husband can have a solid date to give his commander. Good luck and thanks to your hubby for his service!

Answer 2

aww hun I know exactly what your going through my husband missed the birth of our son by 13 days when he was deployed to Iraq. As for when he should take his leave if your due date isn't until Feb 18th they won't even let you have the baby for at least another week or so because if you go in before 36 weeks hospitals will stop your labor if at all possible. You should be fairly safe with him coming home on the 11th.

Did you have your first early? I am due Feb 9th and was just in the hospital having contractions every 2 minutes and had absolutly no dialation lol. But yea I would wait until your next appt and get checked again military will try to get your husband home as soon as they can. Just relax and enjoy these last few weeks.


The only reason my hubby didn't get to be here was they actually deployed 13 days before I gave birth and 20 days before my due date but they WILL bring him home for the birth if possible!

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there's no way to predict the date of birth. Heck, given your early signs, you may deliver prior to 2/1! However, moving his leave up to 2/1 means that he could possibly (though not likely given your signs) miss the birth and seeing your child.

I'm not sure how much notice he's required to give, but if you can wait to decide until after your appointment 1/23, I'd definitely recommended that. You'll have a much better idea of when you'll give birth.

PS - and slightly off topic, I'm due the same day! Best of Luck and I hope you have an easy delivery.

Answer 4

I am so sorry! I feel your worried. We just had a baby 4 weeks ago today and luckily he got to be there. We prayed a lot! He'd already missed the birth of his other son! I asked my doctor to induce me a week early and explained why... then we just prayed I'd make it that long! I guess that I would call your doctor and ask him what he thinks. He should know best how close you really are.
Also, be sure to have a back up like your mother or a close friend just in case.

Answer 5

have the Dr. induce you so your hubby is sure to be home for the birth. I'm sure that the Dr. wouldn't have any objections as long as all has been well with your pg so far. My sis in law did it like that just be sure.
So many people frown upon induction, but I was induced with both of my kids. The first one was because I had high BP, the second one because my due date fell 3 days into his month long vacation and I wanted him to deliever. lol.
Good luck and enjoy!!!

EDIT: If he has leave already scheduled, they will TOO send him home. My sis in law was in this situation twice and both times my brother was there for the birth. A lot of it depends on the type of deployment and where he is at, but most soldiers who have leave scheduled will get it.

Answer 6

I am so sorry, I understand how hard it isn't having your husband dwelling. Mine is within the army as good and has deployed a couple of occasions. Do you might have spousal help institution in which you're? Military better halves, particularly ones with youngsters, are your quality peers! They recognize what you're going by way of. Many of them were within the distinct identical crisis that you're in correct now. I might appear on base for a better halves membership, a few of the ones females have this army factor down and will provide you first-rate recommendation established on revel in. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

I think the 11th will be fine. I was 2 cm dilated for almost 7wks and I lost my mucous plug 5 wks before I delivered. So I think you have a little more time than you may think you do.

Answer 8

There isn't really any way to tell. Sorry. Good luck though. You're very lucky hubby gets to come home for the birth, I'm happy for you. I've seen too many girls give birth alone and daddy come home to a nine month old they've never met. Best wishes!

Answer 9

you are away that the military doesnt send soldiers and sailors home for this. they will send him home for rand r rest and relaxation if he is army when they are ready. they dont care that your about to deliver. many men leave pregnant wives at home to deliver alone