I broke it off with someone I may be in love with to go back to my ex because i thought i still had feelings for my ex. I was constantly thinking of my ex & I think i got the "miss you blues" confused w/my true feelings. We were together for 2 yrs. and it was hard to just let it go and move on completely. I thought i still loved him & had made a mistake, so i left the person I think i'm in love with now to go back to my ex. But, we did get into a fight & i used the fight for an excuse to go back to my ex. But, now that i've been back w/my ex 4 about 2 wks.I realize it's not there anymore. Like the saying goes: You don't know what you have till it's gone. I made a mistake, but what do i tell my ex without him being extremely confused & hurt? This'll be twice! But, i know in my heart in want to be with this other man, all i wanna do is hold him & never let go (again). He'll have me back, i know because he's told me so. But, it's such a complicated situation now. What do i say to my ex?
2007-01-15 07:56:07 · 23 answers · asked by teeny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I was younger, I had a similar problem....the girl I ended up with, became my wife...and I regret breaking up with the first girl. The one I married was not only bi-polar, after the divorce, she tried to ruin my life on several occasions. She even tried to tell me behind her new husband's back that she missed me.... After I divorced her, I remarried to a good Christian woman.... I have since met the first girl I thought I was in love with all these years...and realize that I am glad I did not end up with her also. Her life had some hard knocks...basically what I am saying is you can move on...and there will always be someone there for you. Try not to burn bridges, and stay friends if you are able with both of those guys. I am in love with my current wife, and I never want to be without her...and she was never a part of that confusing time with the two previous women.
2007-01-15 14:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jalapinomex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with the truth that you made a huge terrible mistake. He probably already knows but doesnt want to admit it either. But before it gets way out of hand, the time has come to sit down with him and talk it out without doing real damage. I have seen this so many times before, some work and some dont. You cant go back again and expect things to be just where you left them and to start anew from that point but we have to try just in case. Hopefully you have answered your curiosity now and can now move on without looking back anymore. Talk to him, he will have more respect for you for being honest with him. Good luck
2007-01-15 08:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth-you were confused of what you had in front of you. Wasnt sure who you really wanted, but now that you got you're decisions and priorities together. You realize he is the one you want to be with and tell him you are sorry for the way th ings happened. If he cares for you like he says then he will forgive you and you must remember not to make this mistake again. You do it again it will be on purpose and not a mistake anymore. So be strong as if you were when you broke it off with him and pour your heart out...Good Luck!
2007-01-15 08:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by myrawil@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even know what you want? It seems like if you're that confused that you ought to back off of both for a while and figure things out. You can't just play with people's feelings like that. Besides, when you love someone you know it and there's no question. It seems like you have some questions about exactly what it is that you want and should take some time to think before moving forward with either - or neither.
2007-01-15 08:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were honest with your feelings, and broke up with your current bf when you thought you had feelings for your ex - congrats! Anyways, I think there is really no easy way to break up with someone, everyone gets hurt when they break up with someone whether they are the breaker or the breakee. All you can do is just explain that the magic is not in the relationship anymore and that you feel that it's best not to see each other anymore. Good luck!
2007-01-15 08:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. I think u never wanted to be back with your ex to begin with...u obviously broke up with your ex for a reason so anytime u feel like u would want to be back u need to think of why your not with him in the first place. And if the new guy didnt do anything to cause your break up u need to do whatever it takes to get back in his good graces...and stay there. You can't keep going back and forth between these guys cause eventually they both will get sick of your games and u'll be stuck with no one. So u need to make your decision, stick with it, and be honest and clean with both guys about where u want to be
2007-01-15 08:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is never really a good reason to go back to an ex, there was always a reason why you broke up and it probably hasnt changed. explain to your ex that u made a bad mistake and really regret it. i know how you feel, when you dont have someone u always think it will be better with them, but if u do go with them it ends up completly different.
i hope u get a 2nd chance, and dont do this again
2007-01-15 08:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that complicated. You just are not mature enough to be in ANY sort of committed relationship. I suggest you be honest with your husband, be honest with this other guy and don't get involved with anyone until you can learn to use disgretion and make choices that will stick. This back and forth thing is childish at best.
2007-01-15 08:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. You're flaky, but there's no point in you messing you and your former-ex's life by staying with him when you don't want to be there. Just think a bit harder in the future before you go relationship hopping. Other people's hearts and feelings are involved, not just you and what you want at the moment.
2007-01-15 08:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you need to take a vacation from any kind of love life until you get your self sorted out right now you are like a ping pong ball bouncing all over the place and never sure where you are going to land. Take a break and get your priorities sorted out and then inform all concerned
2007-01-15 08:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋