I'm a 22 year old from Central American origin and I'm currently in a long distance relationship with an Indian guy. He is very open minded, however I don't sense the same from his family. We've been together a little over a year now and are truly in love. Yet, we still haven't met each others parents. He is willing to meet mine, but when I mention that I want to see his, its a different story. He says in their culture, the girl only meets the parents when they are "sure to marry." I respect that, however, I'm not indian, so even if I do meet them, will they still want to share the same beliefs with me? I'm starting to feel a little intimidated by this issue. I told my parents about him and they feel no different. Is this really a big problem for Indian families, when their son is seeing someone out of thier race? I would like an opinion from both Indian genders as well as anyone who's been in my situation please. :)
2007-01-15 07:51:31 · 11 answers · asked by Estrellitas 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Just addtn'l details. He is not Indian as in Native American. He comes from the Punjabi culture. As far as long distance, I'm in Miami & he's in Indiana.
2007-01-15 08:17:57 · update #1
I am an Indian but born in Malaysia. A Malaysian Indian. I think it does not matter who you love, as long as your love is true. Anyway, true love is based on the marriage of heart, not race, caste, creed or belief. What people need is an open mind a heart full of love. The greatest magic that is still lively today is LOVE.
2007-01-15 08:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by rajkath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although India is a country of diversity of religions, the number of foreign people who permanently staying in India are far low, comparing with foreign people who live in America. Since for a narrow minded traditional parents who don’t have any exposure from anybody other than their country actually afraid an American girl. Marriage is considered to be a most important and holy thing for Indians and divorce is not at all accepted by the society. Since a traditional Indian parents will really afraid of the strength of your relationship with their son. Moreover people from the entire society might look at the boy’s family and you like an alien just arrived from outer space. Even a local news paper might report it (It actually happened there once). The cultures followed in America and in India are very much different in most aspects. It is not an easy thing to make you understand what they are and why it is like that. If you have an opportunity, make a visit to India, live with any Indian family (certainly not in a hotel room) for a month at least, so that you’ll understand all answers to your questions. If you have any specific quires on these subjects, feel free to drop me a mail.
Sanju,
sanjurams@yahoo.com
2007-01-15 08:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by sanju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took this question to be about Indian or "Native American" people but now as I reread the question I'm thinking you meant Indian as being from India, correct? I don't know much about India. Native American families, if they are traditional, do prefer their children to marry within their culture. If not Hispanics are the next preference. If you two plan to marry then I'm sure the family will slowly grow to accept you, regardless of your different ethnicity, provided they see how good you are for their child and rear them great grandchildren.
2007-01-15 08:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they very traditional then? (Was he himself born in India, for one?)
Either way, I have several Indian (female) friends, who date white guys all the time (mostly because this area is almost only white guys). And I haven't heard of any problems in the family...
Also, it just might depend on the people. It seems older generations in general often have more of an issue with interracial couples (I think even my parents, who are pretty open-minded, would be a little weirded out if I was dating a black guy or something. Silly but true).
2007-01-15 08:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate generalizations but it does seem to be a running theme. I have a lot of Indian freinds here in the middle east and I dont think the problem is racial so much as cultural. Its quite common for Indian parents to expect a lot from their children and would probably be overly critical of any mate their son would choose.
2007-01-15 08:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by aronlamerson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the Race issue very confused.
Hispanics, are of Spanish Ancestry
Indians, can be from American, or from South America,
or they can be from the country of India.
All are from different cultures.
I think your Boyfriend is pulling one.
Most Parents want to meet, what could be a future
addition to their Family.
Don't let him get away with it.
In my Country we look down on the India's caste system.
Gandhi would be ashamed of them.
I am.
2007-01-15 08:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My sister dated an Indian...didn't go over well. His parent were very much trying to get all the kids the arranged marriage thing...none would have it so all of their partners are disliked by the 'rents.
2007-01-15 07:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
relies upon on their historic past and personality. i do not recommendations black females as long as she is compared to at least one among those ghetto black females or those that interest whores , care to a lot about visual appeal etc.. i might want to favor her to be a lifeless ringer for an basic human being without each and each and every of the bullshet thats sterotyped to black females.
2016-12-02 08:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I can't be of more help, but you're going to have to define which type of indian. I'm familiar with both cultures but need this info to start with.
2007-01-15 07:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by ajax138 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
some people just dont like interracial dating it has nothing to do with being indian and hispanic
2007-01-15 07:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋